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post #16 of 26
3/19/11 at 8:05pm
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Originally Posted by LatinStyleLover View Post
I think the true test of character is doing things that we sometimes would rather not do, but that are important to someone else....

Another +∞ for LSL's entire post.
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post #17 of 26
3/19/11 at 9:36pm
LSL's advice is obviously sound. I think the issue with things like this are how to say no if you did. He asked you, so for you to say you think somebody else would be better would be the equivelent of "it's not you, it's me". Just out of curiosity, he phoned and asked, and you said you would think about it? I am just wondering about the waiting to answer the question.
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post #18 of 26
3/19/11 at 9:43pm
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LSL's advice is obviously sound. I think the issue with things like this are how to say no if you did. He asked you, so for you to say you think somebody else would be better would be the equivelent of "it's not you, it's me".

Just out of curiosity, he phoned and asked, and you said you would think about it? I am just wondering about the waiting to answer the question.

Yeah, it is sorta one of those situations.

I told him I'd have to confirm on my schedule but that I was honoured he asked.
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post #19 of 26
3/20/11 at 1:18pm
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I don't know about etiquette but this seems like an offer you can't refuse without it being a slap in the face. Are the other groomsmen frat brahs of yours?

I'd say do it or the rest of your alumni meetings would be odd if you turned him down. I did it once and it turned out ok but no hot skanks and no vegas
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post #20 of 26
3/20/11 at 1:53pm
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I was put in this situation, and went through with it. I didn't want to but felt it wouldn't hurt me to suffer through it. I hated the experience, by the way, but don't really regret doing it.
LOL this doesn't surprise me knowing what I know of you on this forum. You're always nice. EDIT: PS I'd go through with it. It's a bit selfless and the classy thing to do.
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post #21 of 26
3/20/11 at 7:37pm
Well if he asked you he would have had his reasons, and it's an important thing, so I wouldn't turn him down. Reading between the lines, maybe he doesn't have a lot of close friends, or wants someone there from an important time/place in his life?
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post #22 of 26
3/20/11 at 7:48pm
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I went ahead and confirmed with him today after further consulting with my personal mentor, who always gives good advice. I will post if anything epic happens in relation to this situation.
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post #23 of 26
3/20/11 at 9:20pm
Thats great news, who knows, you might have a blast.

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I went ahead and confirmed with him today after further consulting with my personal mentor, who always gives good advice.

I will post if anything epic happens in relation to this situation.
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post #24 of 26
3/21/11 at 4:02am
Edit - Late post. Let us know how it goes, hope you have fun.
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post #25 of 26
3/23/11 at 4:37pm
Just a thought...

Glad you went through with it. Even if you think you were an after thought, remember that of the 4/5/6 top people in his life, that you are on that list. Maybe he wouldn't be in your top 10/50/100, but you made a positive impact on his life. Well done.
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post #26 of 26
3/23/11 at 4:49pm
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