Compared to Depp and Phoenix, your hair texture appears more coarse and wavier - like Eddie Vedder. If you want it to look like Depp, you're going to need something like a Brazilian Keratin Treatment - a highly effective but expensive product/procedure. It'll work great, though. You'd have to redo it every 3 months or so. Check Youtube vids of you want to see how the procedure is performed. It's going to be trial and error to find the product. If you want your hair to look like it's a few days after washing and more in control, test out Jonathan Antin Dirt, which you can find at Sephora. It's pretty good because it doesn't look like you have any product in your hair. If it doesn't work they'll let you return it. And try the Garnier Leave In Conditioner. You're out $3 if it doesn't work for you. Perhaps it'll be a combination of the Dirt and the Garnier that'll do it. Finally, if your GF is set on American Crew products, you can get a huge discount if you can find it at Ross, TJ Maxx, Marshall's, etc.