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post #16 of 198
3/13/11 at 6:35pm
Dood is going to tell his gf. He's feeling guilty about the whole drunk, wanted to splash girl that got naked then slept in his bed thing. So many problems in relationships get started because someone feels guilty and convinces him/herself that "being honest" is what's needed when it's only to sop their conscience.
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post #17 of 198
3/13/11 at 6:42pm
Whatever you do tell the gf, don't tell her that you saw #2 naked and told her you wanted to fuck.
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post #18 of 198
3/13/11 at 6:45pm
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Originally Posted by Piobaire View Post
Dood is going to tell his gf. He's feeling guilty about the whole drunk, wanted to splash girl that got naked then slept in his bed thing. So many problems in relationships get started because someone feels guilty and convinces him/herself that "being honest" is what's needed when it's only to sop their conscience.


Pretty much. Sometimes it pays to not have a conscience. GF won't believe you at all that nothing happened. She may say she will, but there will be a lingering doubt which will be flung back into your face during an argument.

If you tell her, you're kind of a 'tard.
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post #19 of 198
3/13/11 at 6:47pm
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Whatever you do tell the gf, don't tell her that you saw #2 naked and told her you wanted to fuck.

then he should not bother...
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post #20 of 198
3/13/11 at 7:00pm
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I went out last night with my roommate and we met a couple girls at the bar. Drinks ensued and I was the wingman. When we got back to my place he went straight into his room with girl #1 leaving me with girl #2. Seeing as I wasn't about to call a cab for girl #2 and leave her friend (girl #1) at my place with my roommate, I decided to let girl #2 stay over... in my bed.

I've been in a serious relationship with another girl (who is currently doing a four month internship in another city) for over two years now, and I just might marry her down the road. She is not girl #1 nor girl #2. Is it really bad to spend the night with another girl even though I didn't touch her or make any sexual advances towards her? And how should I approach telling my girlfriend about it?

rule #1: don't get caught

the reason why everyone is just telling you to omit the fact is because it will cause unnecessary problems down the road, and she could potentially use it against you in a future fight.

how would you feel if your gf told you she let another guy sleep in the bed with her but nothing happened? if you're cool with that, props to you, but would she be cool with it, is the real question. you've been with her for 2 years, you should know the answer to this.

tl;dr: if you want to marry this girl, why give her a reason to say no?
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post #21 of 198
3/13/11 at 7:53pm
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Originally Posted by uNiCoRnPriNcEsSx View Post
tl;dr: if you want to marry this girl, why give her a reason to say no?

this.
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post #22 of 198
3/13/11 at 7:55pm
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Originally Posted by ter1413 View Post
being honest will start something. dont tell the gf dude...dont be a pussy...

Yeah. I keep way more than this from my gf and I don't feel bad about it at all.
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post #23 of 198
3/13/11 at 7:58pm
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Yeah. I keep way more than this from my gf and I don't feel bad about it at all.

Oh, and you're a pussy and I'm a badass! Hopefully your gf doesn't read about it on this forum.
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post #24 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:02pm
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Oh, and you're a pussy and I'm a badass! Hopefully your gf doesn't read about it on this forum.

Randall, are you talking to yourself?
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post #25 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:25pm
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Originally Posted by harvey_birdman View Post
Randall, are you talking to yourself?

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post #26 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:36pm
Don't tell her.
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post #27 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:37pm
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Don't tell her.

Good advice from a guy whose longest relationship lasted about 4 hours.
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post #28 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:45pm
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Originally Posted by kjamesuvic View Post
Is it really bad to spend the night with another girl even though I didn't touch her or make any sexual advances towards her? And how should I approach telling my girlfriend about it?

It's not great, but it's not terrible. I'm all for openness and honesty in a relationship, but the only reason to confess something is if you've done something wrong. Thus, in your GF's eyes, confession will make it wrong no matter what did or didn't happen.

You put yourself in this position by agreeing to be your buddy's wingman despite the fact that you're in a serious relationship. As soon as you did that, the rest was pretty predictable. If you keep testing yourself like that, you'll fail eventually. So, decide what you really want, and then act accordingly consistently.
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post #29 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:48pm
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And how should I approach telling my girlfriend about it?
What??? Why are you contemplating telling her? What good do you see coming out of it? You think she's going to appreciate your honesty? If the entire incident was innocent... you shouldn't give a shit and shouldn't even bother telling your girl. Unless you want to subconsciously start shit that could end things or you feel guilty, because you really wanted to do something.
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post #30 of 198
3/13/11 at 8:56pm
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Originally Posted by harvey_birdman View Post
Randall, are you talking to yourself?

Hah....yes I am. Really, though. Do you think she'd tell you everything? I for one, wouldn't want to know the truth about some things.
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