Originally Posted by christinedaae
pretty much it is. if you go into relationships trying to make women relationship material you are going to be a carl thomas singing motherfucker lol. You don't meet women with the intention of being in relationships. you meat them with the intention to have fun and have sex if things go well. if they go REALLY well and you want to keep having fun, then you can broach the subject of being exclusive. you don't ever go into a first date thinking this woman is going to be my future GF or wife or somehting you are asking for it. You go into it thinking of simply having a good time.
And even when you do, it doesn't work, there is a science behind it (There is a method to my madness). Women can smell the desperation in you are trying to force a women you don't know ito be your GF or Wife, women want you to want them for them, not because you want a GF and she's there, which is what you are saying when you go into a date iwth the intention of making this woman your exclusive partner without her proving anything to you other then possibly being cute.
I get where you're coming from, and going on a first date saying "How do I make this girl my girlfriend" is silly and unproductive. But I don't get going on a first date just trying to get sex, either. I want to go on a first date to see if I have a connection with a girl. If I do, then I'll think about a second date, future, sex, and all of that stuff. But I'd never go into a date just trying to have fun and get laid. Maybe that explains why I don't get laid, but it doesn't matter b/c that fact doesn't bother me.