Girl Issues, Need Advice vol. infinity - Page 10

Originally Posted by harvey_birdman

Lol, I am not a good person.

Originally Posted by HgaleK

Don't get too sweet. You're supposed to be filling in the fun while her boyfriend covers her emotionally. You lose your interest if you don't provide what he isn't. The acting a little nicer is just to get her loosen up...The key is generating the sense of security while not turning yourself in to the gay friend.

Originally Posted by CalTex

I know that I dress better than this guy and am more built than this guy, and in my opinion I am more pleasing to the aesthetic. but he jumped on her ass before I got a chance, well before I tried.

How should I approach her? I have come to accept that I am a bit timid sometimes and other tiems, i.e. when in uniform, with friends, I grow a pair all of a sudden.

Originally Posted by texas_jack

eventually those women get married and then it becomes awkward.

Originally Posted by Unjung

Why would anyone choose not to be friends with someone just because they have different parts between their legs?

Originally Posted by christinedaae

your passive aggressiveness is quite cute.


Look, I could give 2 shits about my "e cred". As you can see I don't post here all that much by my post count. I come here like everyone else, to get my game together when it comes to clothes. Everyone brings something different to the table, some people are good with money, some are good with food like that dude in the food thread with all the pictures that make me hungry, I'm good with women, so when it comes to women and I see something I can offer advice to I do. you can either read it or you can ignore it, it's no skin off my back either way. But if you saw someone wearing a suit that was 2 sizes too big and they asked you how they look, you are going to tell them the truth, that's no different then what I did. Lol, I'm going to sleep fine rather you get that suit tailored or not, my "cred" is no more ruined if you think the suit is too big or it actually fits, your opinion of my advice, has no weighting on my actual ability to dress. But you can't say someone didn't tell you it was too big. That's how I feel. And like the g uy in the suit analogy, I know i'm right at the end of the day, I don't have to convince anyone that your suit is too big lol, dude the suit is too big, rather you want to acknowledge it or not is not up to me.

Originally Posted by pstoller

Everything you write is as if you're the only guy who has actual "experiences with the opposite sex." News flash: you're a long, long way from being the only guy on SF (let alone beyond this tiny microcosm) who's ever gotten laid. You haven't set any records for most partners bedded or quickest time from "hello" to penetration, and it wouldn't matter if you had because sex is not a competitive sport and getting a woman to fuck you doesn't mean you know squat about relationships.

My posts aren't from theory; I've been amassing experience since before you were born. Nothing you've written is remotely revelatory. Some of it is true; some of it, not so much. You want to share your personal insights, hey, great; any informed point of view holds value. But your Mac Daddy act reeks mightily, and not of theory.

Originally Posted by makker

Yes fun fun, another topic at this again.

So the story:

There is this chick in my class in college, now after 5 months of our first year we have suddenly (I can't remember how it started) began talking to each other regularly. It first started on facebook and whenever I see her in class I try to talk to her. However, since actually our time spent out of class is greater during the day the talk is usually through the internet. Anyway, we've been talking and last Friday she accepted to do something with me that night. Before I had persuaded her to do something together, whatever it was, lunch, sports, basically anything, just to get to know her better. She made up excuses and breaking the ice here seemed difficult even though we had many hour-long conversations, both enjoying it. On that night it was all up to me to decide what to do, so we met and went to a lounge bar kind of place where I had never been before, but I heard it was good and we talked and had fun I suppose. After a few drinks she is already tipsy and at one point she admits that she never knew that she would go out with me. Being a bit startled, I of course ask why but she makes up lame ass excuses once again that dont make sense, I guess she just thought I was not her type. She's tipsy, willing to do anything almost, we head back and end up in my place where be have a bottle of champagne. She eventually falls in my bed, I sit next to her, definitely less drunk and shes telling how she is feeling ill and stuff. Eventually she just crawls under the blanket and falls asleep immediately. Having no idea what to do, I fall asleep next to her.

Next morning I wake up before her, not knowing whether to get up or not. I lay still, eventually hearing her wake up and letting out a few silent laughs and shaking her head in disbelief. I mean I had no idea what to think about this. I give her water, have a small chat and then she leaves.

Things have been since then continuing the same way as before, but today as I was sitting next to one of my female friends, she sat next to her friends a row in front of me and seemed like she didnt want to make any contact. After class, she also left quickly and I am sure she had seen me behind her.

Maybe its too early to say, but I really dont know where this is going. I still feel that I dont know her that well and her past relationships and social life in general. What also makes it hard is that she likes to play around with me all the time, saying stuff but then saying it was a joke. As one of the worst interpreters of women's minds, I feel that soon I will be completely lost with this. I want to keep the thing going so I invited her yesterday to a private party at a skyscraper next Saturday and she said she will have to see since her cousin and friend are coming .. I dont know. I guess if she eventually doesn't come then she wont want to go out with me anymore, but even though I never directly asked her I think she enjoyed it last weekend. Even though I would mostly prefer for her to be a close friend of mine where we can do cool stuff together I dont know what she is looking for. She definitely took our meeting as a date whereas I never understand why meeting a colleague out in the city can be more serious than that.

We have our own inside jokes and stuff, but I feel that soon this wont progress and I will just be a guy always making the initiatives on her and when she is bored I will be a good target to get some humor from, nothing else. In fact, when we went out I paid for her drinks and we both have acknowledged she owes me back, so I'm trying to use it as a bait to get her to go out with me again, especially since going out this weekend should be very cool where we can look over the city at night. I know you guys all think that shes laughing at the fact she got a "free meal", but I'm rather sure she will eventually pay it all back.

Confusing shit, I know, but I hope you guys understand my position in this.

Originally Posted by coldnyt1

she's out of it bro.. not into anything with you at all.. so move on ... goodluck

Originally Posted by CalTex

There is this girl in my history class, she seems interesting and is cute, only problem is that this other guy is talking to her. I am not sure if its her boyfriend or just a friend but at the beginning of the semester I dont remember her talking to her. I saw them study once and I see them talk after class now, he waits for her and vice versa. I know that I dress better than this guy and am more built than this guy, and in my opinion I am more pleasing to the aesthetic. but he jumped on her ass before I got a chance, well before I tried. How should I approach her? I have come to accept that I am a bit timid sometimes and other tiems, i.e. when in uniform, with friends, I grow a pair all of a sudden.

Originally Posted by Rambo

TL;DR Somebody give me the short version of all this shit