Originally Posted by m@T
OK Ill rerail this
I was with a girl for about 4 years, lived together for the vast majority of that, was about your age at the time too, and we had similar issues toward the end.
In our case it was basically a symptom of a situation where we had been together a long time, and had basically decided we didnt want to be together forever. I was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt her a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.
There was nothing actually wrong with the relationship, we were getting along fine, never fought, always pleasant, had active social lives and friends and all that kinda stuff, but we were just at this stage where it was like "what do you do when you have lived with someone this long, and dont want to make it permanent?" Do you just cruise along indefinitely cos its easier or do you hug each other and say "thanks for the ride"?
In our case, we probably stayed together 4 or 5 months past our use by date, but eventually had the tough talk and wrapped it up. She was the one who initiated that chat, and it hurt me a lot. But I think we were both feeling it.
We split up pretty amicably for all the same reasons as we were together pretty amicably. We still chat on IM, were still friendly, she is doing very well for herself now, and I couldnt be happier for her. It was for the best.
So I cant pretend to know your situation, can only relay mine, and that's how it was for us.
agree with what Matt says.
sorry dude - you have the rest of your life to not be having sex, if you aren't getting it more than twice a month at 25, in a relationship, you will be sorry. when you are my age, and that is the norm, you need to have memories of what it was like when you were young.