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most polite way to turn down a wedding invitation?

crazyquik

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I have two upcoming weddings on the same day, and have been sent 'Save the dates' for both. I need to turn down one of them, and I already know which one. What's the best way to do that? Before formal invites come out? After? In a written letter? Etc. I've never had this problem before
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Krish the Fish

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Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.
 

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one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.
 

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Originally Posted by Matt
one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

+1

Being genuinely sorry you can't make it to their wedding and giving them a nice gift is the best thing to do.
 

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Classy


Originally Posted by Matt
one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.
 

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Originally Posted by Matt
one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

I like!
 

crazyquik

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Originally Posted by Krish the Fish
Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.

That seems a bit impersonal.
 

ter1413

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Originally Posted by crazyquik
That seems a bit impersonal.

then call and say that you can't make it...
 

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Originally Posted by Matt
one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

LOL! But a nice gesture to see them the night before.
 

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Just explain your reason and don't go, make the correct decision according to your consciousness. It's not really that tough now, come on.
 

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Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....
 

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Originally Posted by ter1413
Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....
This. Let them know right away that you can't make it. I did this last week for a wedding occurring in May.
 

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Call and tell them you got invited to another wedding on the same day and already told the other person you would attend their wedding.
 

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i can see how this can be a sticky situation especially if they are both friends. in matts case he was sorta lucky its his brother, noone can question him on that. i wouldnt want to be in that situation picking over 2 friends.
 

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