Men are really, really angry. Consider: "We're not STUCK in pre-adulthood, we choose it because there aren't any desirable American women. They've been bred to abuse men." This fairly typical response that appeared at the Seattle Post Intelligencer website: "Sorry ladies. In the age of PlayStation 3s, 24-hours-a-day sports channels, and free Internet porn, you are now obsolete. All that nagging, whining, and stealing our hard earned cash have finally caught up to you." ... this is bitterness from guys who find the young women they might have hoped to hang out with entitled, dishonest, self-involved, slutty, manipulative, shallow, controlling"”and did I mention gold-digging?
If young women haven't all graciously assumed the responsibility that comes with their new level of socio-economic power, well, it's not as if the men who've had the power in the past have set much of an example. Men have as much right as women to complain when they're treated unfairly; but seriously, any guy who chooses extended adolescence because "there aren't any desirable American women" is no prize himself, just as one who thinks video games, sports channels, and porn render real women and real relationships "obsolete" is in no position to accuse women of "whining."
Gold-digging? Men have traditionally relied on their economic prowess as leverage in the mating game, so much so that it largely precluded the need for looks, kindness, manners, and so on. With women coming into their own financially, men have to up their game on multiple fronts"”including the fiscal one. The dudes flocking to websites like EternalBachelor to vent their spleens simply can't cut it on a relatively even playing field. They won't be happy until the clock turns back to 1952, and that ain't gonna happen.
Women may want equality at the conference table and treadmill. But when it comes to sex and dating, they aren't so sure. The might hook up as freely as a Duke athlete. Or, they might want men to play Greatest Generation gentleman. Yes, they want men to pay for dinner, call for dates"”a writer at the popular dating website The Frisky titled a recent piece "Call me and ask me out for a damn date!""”and open doors for them. A lot of men wonder: "WTF??!" Why should they do the asking? Why should they pay for dinner? After all, they are equals and in any case, the woman a guy is asking out probably has more cash in her pocket than he does; recent female graduates are making more than males in most large cities.
Sure, girls can"”and do"”ask guys out for dinner and pick up the check without missing a beat. Women can make that choice. Men say they have no choice. If they want a life, they have to ask women out on dates; they have to initiate conversations at bars and parties, they have to take the lead on sex. Women can take a Chinese menu approach to gender roles. They can be all "Let me pay for the movie tickets" on Friday nights, and "A single rose? That's it?" on Valentine's Day.
Far worse in the bait and switch category is women's stated preference for nice guys and actual attraction to bad boys...
Men have same choice women have: they can wait until asked, or muster their courage and do the asking. And, really, opening doors on dates and springing for a dozen roses on Valentine's Day are challenges? Yes, dating costs money, buy it doesn't have to cost a lot unless you don't know any way to a woman's heart save for spending yourself into it. No heart that's for sale is worth buying, anyway.
Yeah, different women have different dating habits and expectations: this is new? The double standards that men apply to women haven't gone away either: there are all sorts of threads on this website about how "desperate" women (those who have sex too readily or otherwise appear too eager) are a turn-off on the one hand, and that extol "hit it and quit it" hook-ups on the other. So, while the guys are still caught up in the whole madonna/whore thing, the gals are still looking for Prince Charming with a bad boy streak. This has been an issue since the Stone Age. Part of growing up is figuring out who you really are and what you really want. Until men and women alike cash a reality check, they're all going to be just overgrown boys and girls.