Originally Posted by horndog
Well, some girls have serious self-image and self-esteem issues where they at their core believe they're only deserving of low life men. These types of women are hopeless themselves, perhaps incapable of healthy relationships in any way. This goes even for women who are intelligent, professionally successful, seemingly well-balanced. Beneath those surfaces often lie a woman with real fucking baggage and father issues.
Those are the outliers though and they cross both genders. I just find laughable the boring, spineless, or petty men who generalize all women to this category and blame them for themselves being boring, spineless, or petty.
It goes back to hill's code of ethics (I use every tool I can get lol)
Whatever time I may have to devote to the discovery and exposure of the weaknesses and
faults of others I will devote, more profitably, to the discovery and correction of my own.
I don't care, what she did, how fucked up her parents are, who abused her, what her expectations are, you aren't going to fix her. But you can fix yourself, and you did do something wrong. Every relationship I had, there is something I could improve on.
When i was 17 (and this actually hurt, bad, when it happened), I dated a girl I actually really really liked. We dated for 8 months. She was a virgin at the time and while I love sex, I was getting it pretty regardless even then, I can respect a woman's virginity, and I told her that I didn't want to take it in the back seat of a car. I was going to do it right. I was waiting utnil prom night. It was February at the time.
Well, as it turns out, that's exactly what she wanted. She went to a party, and had sex with like 4 dudes that night. That hurt. I mean HURT. It hurt me so bad I went to school the next day and had to leave after first period, I was a mess. But you know what, I never blamed her.l I learned, that even a cactus has to be watered every once in a while.
(she has 4 kids now for what it's worth)
Also, in general, girls that have fucked up preferences for men don't have a lot of value, and not worthy of the concern and heartache that produce these discussions.
exactly. The girl that left me for the drunk that works at ihop.. seriously, if these are your decision making skills, just tip your hat and wish her the best of luck, and mean it, don't wish any ill will on the girl, she made her decision and move on. I'm not going to hound on how stupid she is or how much better I am, it is what it is. And I learned a lesson there, I have to qualify my women better (She was a redhead and i just skipped the rest of the qualifying process lol). At the end of the day I had no one to blame but me, I knew better. She was an ex stripper, even though she now had a college degree, she was 30 and was still living with her mom. Those are red flags that I ignored in the persuit of you know what, and i have me to blame, not her.