I guess its too late, but the best vegetarian cook book is the one from The Grit:
http://www.amazon.com/Grit-Cookbook-.../dp/1556526482
The grasshopper cake recipe is the best I've ever tasted, frostings ok but the cake itself is so moist its unbelievable. Now we just make the cake and sub in whatever frosting we feel like. Plus a bunch of other recipes that are palatable for carnivores.
Second best is Vegan with a Vengence, by the same girl who did the Veganomicon before she got all chi-chi. VwV has ordinary ingredients that you can find anywhere.
http://www.amazon.com/Vegan-Vengeanc...tt_at_ep_dpi_5
Yeah, its vegan, but you can just sub in milk or eggs where you want.