I'm not married, but I'll answer your questions anyway.
Originally Posted by LARon
For those of you who dress better or spend more on clothes than your partner, how do you reconcile your obvious desire to be well (or very well) turned out with her apparent indifference or lesser enthusiasm for that effect?
It's usually not a problem, though I did have one girl tell me that I was high maintenance. Normally, they take pleasure in the way I dress, though not to the same degree as I do.
Do you ever feel guilty for your heightened sense of vanity
God no! I embrace it.
or do you ever feel that she's not keeping up her end of the team (especially, for example, if you're out somewhere where most other women are exuding a high level of polish (more akin to your style than your partner)?
Also, do you find yopurself more attracted to women who dress more on your level, or women who are less concerned with (or less obsessed with) high fashion?
I'm definitely more attracted to women that dress well. It doesn't have to be couture because let's face it, not to many 20 year old girls can afford that, but it does have to look nice and fit properly. The thing about girls is that they look awesome in just about anything, but I'm really turned on by pretty shoes and a pedicure :P The last girl I went out with had about 100 pairs of shoes. I was the first person to tell her that it really wasn't too many. :P