..I realize this is about verbal ticks, but the motivations and thoughts drive it somewhat.
For example, being asked for advice by someone at work when they feel they are being treated unfairly for me goes like this..
Young coworker: Man, I hate this place, they are fulla shit up in here.
Me: In what way?
Them: What? It's just ridiculous how they do things?
Me: Ridiculous in what way?
Them: What are you talking about??? Fuck!!!
Me: I can't help you if you don't help me understand what's really going on.
Young black coworker: Man they are trippin'.
Me: Trippin' how?
Them: Man, you know how they are!
Me: Who is "they" and what did they do?
Them: Why you actin' like that?
Me: Acting like what...?...I'm trying to figure out what's going on.
Them: What the fuck man, I'm tryin' to tell yo ass, dayum!
Me: Nigga please you ain't said shit..come to me when you have a REAL issue!