Originally Posted by Stazy
Honestly. The impression I'm getting from this thread is that guys seem to think there is only ONE way to talk to girls.
I think the impression you should get is there most certainly are ways NOT to talk to high value girls, and there are certain ways that you can go about it and have success. OP demonstrated one of the ways not to talk to hot girls. willpoweron page one demonstrated a way that one would have conveyed humor to her most likely, and she would have most likely responded positively to it instead of some pathetic "Awwwwww" comment.
It's not really the case. If you're naturally confident you don't need to try and act confident. You just naturally exude it.
Not everyone is naturally confident. If they were we wouldn't have threads like "OMG i think i screwed up with this chick via text"
I think that's the problem with all the PUA bullshit...It's just an act. You might initially trick some girl into thinking you're worth chasing but sooner or later she's going to realize that you're full of shit.
Theres nothing bullshit about it. At its core its a guide on the traits that men who have a lot of success with women have. if you can successfully implement these traits into your life you will become more successful with women. We are not just talking about lines, its a lifestyle change. When guys in here are giving advice on what to say to her, its just giving the OP some statements that a guy who gets a lot of woman could very likely say. A guy who gets a lot of girls would never send an initial text like "So how long will I have to chase you before I can take you to dinner?" Thats not congruent with a guy who has a lot of women in his life. Right off the bat you're sending off red flags to her subconscious that you're not a catch. To hot girls that have 2500 facebook friends, you better at least come off as a catch initially. This girl has a busy life and has guys hitting on her everyday(Remember Chris Rock skit "You want some dick?" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XMiyg87UhL4
so she needs to weed out a lot of guys. So they look for social proof indicators like are other girls interested in him?--> is he saying things that indicate he doesn't have much going on in his life like "ill wait 3 months to take you to dinner". Why on earth would any guy with a fun field busy life wait 3 months to take a girl out for dinner when he doesn't even know her. What does that say about the guy ->Desperate
-- and we already established that desperation is a universally unattractive quality in humans
I'm definitely not saying I'm a master of picking up chicks. I'm not. Personally though, I've had more success with just being myself than trying to put on an act. That means: self depreciating humor, lame jokes, asking girls out via text (even a first date...omg), texting more than I should, and so forth.
I agree you shouldn't put on an act. I'm not too into lame jokes myself but there sure isn't anything wrong with text messaging.
As long as you present yourself in an attractive manner, you shouldn't have to follow a "rule book".
Thats the point. A lot of guys don't know how to present themselves in an attractive manner. Therefore they need to understand the theory behind all of this and then try to change their lifestyle.