Met this chick and I practically screwed myself. - Page 20

Originally Posted by mkarim

Yes they cut to the chase. No games, no all-men-are-pigs, no what-men-are-supposed-to-do, no what-women-are-supposed-to-do, no arguing and debating everything under the sun, no squirming over how many days you should wait before you call her, no need to wonder how many times you should let her call before you answer the phone, no need to play hard to get, etc. They're a throwback to much simpler days.

My friends in Eastern Europe laugh when I tell them about the dating scene here.

Originally Posted by alliswell

T- The advice you haven't been given directly yet is - stop worrying about girls, go find something you like to do and become awesome at it. You're going to spend long enough married and thinking of things to do to get away from your wife; it's easier to justify this if there's already something you enjoy.

Originally Posted by CalTex

Okay so I forgot about that girl and if she were to contact me I have that f off mentality right now towardes her. O and I am the OP by the way, I have stated this before bur am still getting asked I I am.

So last night a buddy of mine and I went to the local p.f. Changs and our waitress cought my attention. I asked her a few questions and she answers and seemed cheery but she did not ask me anything in return, I also went there at 9:45 so they were quite busy. Point here is she is going to nursing school, broke up with her boyfriend and works their. She was a good waitress and I was going to try to ask for her number but this other waitress ended up picking up our signed receipt so I was unable to. (do you guys think that was intentional? As in she told her friend to get it because she coils tell I was trying to talk to her?)

So should I go back and try to her her phone number?
And if so how would you guys go about it? (I was thinking about asking her out for coffee)
Would she find out if I called the restaurant and asked if she was working the nigh I was planning on going?
Would it be weird if I went there again whenwas working and ask for her as our waitress?
I obviously don't want to turn this into a let's go eat there for 3 weeks thing just so I can try to get her number. Lol

In advance Thanks guys for all the advice.

Originally Posted by Izhitsa

I wouldn't laugh - I'm from Russia, and I've got/heard of others getting enough of the above. Don't think I'll ever marry or even establish a relationship. I'm 32, by the way. Not misogynistic or anything - it's some of the things above, plus unrequited love and me being an introvert.

Originally Posted by polo votarient

It really doesn't matter what you say. You can say "Hi, I know it's not easy meeting strangers, but so what, let's try". Or "You look bored. Game of tic tac toe?". "Hi, I came over to flirt with you, so let's get started. Ready? You go first" Even "Remember me?" will work. It's confidence or lack of confidence that the girl will pick up on, not the words you blurt out. You do have to greet her with a smile and make immediate eye contact when you're in front of her. Keep eye contact going 75% of the time when you're talking to her. Keep the conversation light. The more you can make her laugh, the better. Come up with a nickname for her, this will create a sense of familiarity between you two, even though you only met 20 minutes ago. It has to be about something you noticed about her - "You're studying volcanoes? Okay, Volcano Girl, what do you know about Pompeii?" Talk to her for several more minutes after getting her phone #, don't just split after she gives you her number. And when you text her (not the same day), use the nickname you came up with in the message. "So, Volcano Girl...blah blah blah blah blah"

Originally Posted by Barry Off Eastenders

There is a theory on attracting women that basically says do whatever it is you do and are good at, passionate about, and be the best you can at that and women will come to you. They like the winner, the alpha, and the confidence... the challenge is finding that thing and being great at it, good luck!

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

Sup, Volcano Girl? You can call me Magmar cause I'm about to come inside you.

Originally Posted by Barry Off Eastenders

There is a theory on attracting women that basically says do whatever it is you do and are good at, passionate about, and be the best you can at that and women will come to you. They like the winner, the alpha, and the confidence... the challenge is finding that thing and being great at it, good luck!

Originally Posted by SirGrotius

I'm a self proclaimed expert in these matters, so allow me step in and help.

First off, you did VERY well by being up front with her about wanting to take her out to dinner and not wanting to wait 6 months, etc.

Your second move was a mistake, where you became whiny and a little "married man" by calling her sweetheart and asking about her day. No guy cares how a woman's day went, don't act like you.

Here's what you should have done, and there's a chance you can still salvage this. Ask her if she'd be interested in dinner at a specific restaurant on a specific day/time. No more pattering about. Women like direction and confidence, and you've got to reset that tone. If she stalls or does not reply, you can become sappy and say something about waiting six months for her is like an eternity to you, since every day is like a month due to her beauty. At some point, you need to compliment her, because all women like compliments, and I did not see one in your follow up exchange.

Texting is common now too, but the above date request might be better in person due to the delay.

Hope this helps.

Originally Posted by SirGrotius

[...]No guy cares how a woman's day went, don't act like you.[...]

Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7

I honest do not understand the chart. Ignoring girls = win?