Originally Posted by Matt
I'm your man.
Fire away. So I'm somewhere by myself, I don't know anyone there, I see an apparently single girl by herself (which is actually pretty rare), I go up to her and say…
Originally Posted by kwilkinson
Take his advice!!!! Matt's advice is what got Hot Waitress to fuck me. Many times.
I thought Hot Waitress fucked you one! In any case, I look forward to having imaginary victories of my own.
Originally Posted by kwilkinson
TBH, I don't remember many specifics now, since it was way back in July. Mostly it was a couple of things to say or how to say it. What kind of shit to put up with but what kind of stuff to tell her is stupid, etc. To challenge her on bullshit instead of listening to it. Just basic stuff like that. All his advice worked so well that he said he'd created a monster and changed his avatar to Cookie Monster for a while.
Well you must have already been having pretty in-depth conversations with her if these things were even an issue.
Originally Posted by Blackfyre
Tagut, don't you play pool? Pool is a good way to open up a conversation, especially if you're good.
Yeah, in fact my social life depends almost entirely on pool. As you might expect, it's not necessarily the best way of meeting women
however. Actually, last Thursday I went to a local bar that's usually pretty dead (a friend of mine is the DJ there) and found it was packed with a flash mob of Guilford College students. I put quarters up and just started running the pool table… I've actually been playing extraordinarily well recently. A cute blonde girl comes up and says she wants to play. She doesn't have any quarters, but says that if I pay for the game, she'll buy me a beer if she loses. Seems fair enough to me. We play, I win, she buys me a beer, I talk with her here and there as best I can throughout the next hour or so (also, the music isn't blaringly
loud here- I'm somewhat hard of hearing- so that makes it considerably easier.) Then she got invoved in some sort of fight and ended up leaving early.
Things always go easier for me when someone else initiates the conversation. Actually, getting approached by women used to be something that happened fairly regularly to me, but for some reason those approaches seem to have dried up. Probably just a result of me hanging around the same bars and the same crowds for too long. In any case, having that much interaction with a woman I don't already know is a once-in-a-blue-moon occurance these days. Who knows, maybe she'll be there next Thursday.
Originally Posted by willpower
tag - I wrote that stuff just as a general guideline to help out a guy who is completely at a loss when it comes to interacting with potential dates/mates. It's for those who are 18-25 - the age that many women are aroused by the "bad boy" type, and the OP is 20. It's not a one size fits all template.
See, now I just consider that another meaningless bro-y platitude. Pickup guru types say, "chick are attracted to bad boys", and then go on to prescribe behaviors that not only have little to do with most people's conception of bad boy behavior, but in fact can seem downright cornball. Do "bad boys" really start impromptu tic-tac-toe games and and ask strangers about what kind of gift they should buy for their imaginary friend's sister's birthday party?