I'm very happy some people find this, but I don't ever want to be so close to anyone. Again.
To the romantic ... it never seems to occur that there might be another way ... something other than the all-consuming. But ... there certainly is ... and it's not an inferior way. It is all about prefernce.
I've never understood others who define themselves by their relationship ... those who are so close to the other than they are lost without them. I'm not saying that is wrong or bad ... it just doesn't work for me.
My spouse and I are best friends ... but we are not lost without the other. While we share a part of our lives ... we each have a life quite independent of the other.
I'll also note that many of our friends, both male and female, are single -- by choice -- and have very fulfilling lives. One of them recently said of us, "You are two single people who choose to cohabitate." If that's the way they see it ... so be it. As I see it, we're just who we are.