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Originally Posted by Reggs 
I was the object of a custody battle when I was a kid. If the boy wants less time with the other mother, let him. 9 is old enough to know what he wants. You are not going to force love on any child, and who says he wont have 2 parents if he has a step mother now? And who is to say that the step mother will not be more loving than the other mother?
All that said, it's none of your business.
All that said, it's none of your business.
good feedback, thanks. serious question - are you happy? do you have good relationships?
frankly, it isn't any of my business, but I feel badly for the "AM", and she came to me for help and advice. she lost her family, and she doesn't have parents or siblings to advise her. I know the birth mother and the adoptive mother, we were all friends at one point, and the birth mother is nuts and is really working hard at poisoning the kid against his adoptive mother.
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Hmm, now I'm confused: does the child want to spend more time with Adoptive mother? And Birth Mother is fighting that? Or do I have it the other way around?
the boy sent a letter, in language that really doesn't sound like his, to the AM, asking to spend less time with her. I am sure that he has been faced with options from the BM that basically say "ok, we can all go to a movie, or you can go see that other woman"
the Birth mother has been badmouthing the AM since the beginning, including suggesting that she sexually abused the boy, and put him at risk. she's sent the police over during visits on false pretenses, to scare the boy.
