Originally Posted by Don Carlos
At any rate, I get approached and even outright hit on by chicks all the time. There are also times when I don't, of course, but the determining factor seems to b whether I am in a good mood or not. Smiling and looking like a friendly, outgoing person gets me practically mauled by trim. Being standoffish or sour gets me avoided. I say this because I vascillate between the two moods on any given day, and I wear my emotions on my sleeve. Not sure if you're the same way.
Funny, I used to get hit on/approached by women all the time (well, maybe like twice a month, which is a lot considering how little I actually get out of the house) but as I've started working out and dressing better (latter point debatable: check SW&D WAYWT) my number of unsolicited approaches has winnowed, yet I'm sure I look better now than I've ever looked. I'm not going to try to draw a causal relation between the two, though. I know I've come to depend too much on playing pool as a social crutch, which I'm sure distances me from women. Also, I'm sure hanging around the same places for years on end hasn't helped; I've probably developed a reputation as the creepy social retard guy among regulars (many of whom I wouldn't recognize by their faces, never mind know by their names.) Also, my mood has most definitely soured over the last few years. I feel like anger and loneliness are destroying me from the inside-out, yet it's not something I talk about to casual acquaintances (which are the only acquaintances I have) and it's something I try to keep at arm's length when I go out somewhere. Maybe this is somehow conveyed in my demeanor/body language, subliminally alienating people, and it's my loneliness that's keeping me lonely. But yeah, I'm kind of dependant on women- well, anyone really- to appraoch me and start a conversation, since I don't have the social skills to initiate and sustain a conversation myself. Even when I think about friendships I've had in my life, they all started with someone approaching me first. The only two times I have been explicitly sexually propositioned by a complete stranger have both been by gay guys, and these sexual propositions occured- strangely enough- on two successive days.