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post #61 of 74
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But allowing it means he must know it's going on... that's messed up.
I don't think he meant that. I think he means he doesn't want to know his girlfriend or wife is fucking her new man Jody because knowing about it would crush him. Whether he allows cheating if it was happening and he knew is something only he can answer. How would you go about stopping people from cheating anyways? Your girlfriend can't stop you if you really want to go fuck Suzy, so how would you stop her from fucking Jody if she wants? It's harder to change someone than to make a change in your life.
post #62 of 74
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Originally Posted by GQgeek View Post
She allows it too though, which probably works out pretty damned well for the guy given his lifestyle. It's way easier for a guy to have a mistress than for a woman to have a boytoy or whatever you want to call it.

Individual/special cases aside.... I disagree. I'd say its far easier for the woman to have a boytoy/whatever. If a woman wants to mess around most guys aren't going to care that she's married, on the other hand when things are flipped around I think at least a decent chunk of women are going to avoid the married man.
Also, its much easier (especially assuming both are equally attractive) for the woman to get laid than the man.
post #63 of 74
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There is a difference between acknowledging a truth and being faced with a particular instance thereof. One is an idea, the other an experience.
Thank you, Redwoood. It was a relief just to see those eyes in your avatar. I knew someone like you or Vox could explain it.
post #64 of 74
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Whether he allows cheating if it was happening and he knew is something only he can answer.
Of course, it's not cheating if it's allowable.

But fellows ... this thread is supposed to be about living with a girlfriend. That said ... feel free to use my posts to start a new thread. Call if Cheating? or even Messed-up? if you like.
post #65 of 74
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Individual/special cases aside.... I disagree. I'd say its far easier for the woman to have a boytoy/whatever. If a woman wants to mess around most guys aren't going to care that she's married, on the other hand when things are flipped around I think at least a decent chunk of women are going to avoid the married man.
Also, its much easier (especially assuming both are equally attractive) for the woman to get laid than the man.
Where I'm from, it's easier to get a 2nd and 3rd girl if you already have a 1st.
post #66 of 74
No, don´t do it. I only had the keys to my ex-gfs place. Even that was enough for us to argue and flip over the smallest things. Think twice monsieur, think twice
post #67 of 74
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Originally Posted by TourbillonTurk. View Post
Think twice monsieur, think twice
No. Think three times monsieur, think three times - and then some.
post #68 of 74
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Originally Posted by Redwoood View Post
If you need a plan B to fall back on, you're obviously not ready.
If you want to cohabit in order to save money, you're probably not ready.
The reason you move in with a romantic partner is because you want to spend as much time as possible with them. Because time spent together is better than time spent apart. And that's pretty much it.

This is the best advice I can remember reading on SF.
post #69 of 74
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Where I'm from, it's easier to get a 2nd and 3rd girl if you already have a 1st.

That's mathematically sound.
post #70 of 74
Just moved into a place with my GF a little over a month ago and things have been great.

I don't miss having my own place one bit.
post #71 of 74
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Originally Posted by ArtOrSartor View Post
That's mathematically sound.
post #72 of 74
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That's mathematically sound.
That was good.
post #73 of 74
Got to chime in...

Dated a girl for four years. Moved to another state for two, did the long distance thing. Moved back to the DC area in '06; immediately started cohabitation. Did so for the next four years.

In April we got engaged. Last November we bought a house. Marriage is this June.

We obviously wanted to take things slow and establish our careers. The stars aligned; housing became affordable again, our jobs are stable... one of us can get laid off and we can still make mortgage payments. We're in no hurry to have kids. After this long, plus two years of 500 miles apart, we know each other's (and our own) desires and habits well enough that cheating is the least of our concerns. It just made sense to put off marriage and keep cohabitating.
post #74 of 74
I lived with my ex-gf for almost 7 years before we recently broke up a few months ago (she got kicked out, I stayed in our place). It wasn't bad living with her, it was enjoyable to be honest, but I don't think I'd ever live with another gf again since I like having my own space now.
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