Originally Posted by zbromer
A lot of these pronouncements that a low cost wedding is inherently better are ridiculous and annoyingly judgmental. As with purchasing just about anything, it's very dependent on individual circumstances. Spend what you want and what you can afford.
You may be able to afford $100K on a wedding, but don't want to spend that much. So don't.
You may want to spend $100K on a wedding, but can't afford it. So don't.
You may want a $100K wedding and can afford. Go for it.
Everybody needs to find the right amount for them, balancing what their budget can afford and what things they value spending money on. You may scoff at someone who spent $30K on a wedding, but that's simply you imposing your value system on someone else, who simply values certain things differently.
I don't put much value in a big, expensive wedding but some people do. If they can afford it then good for them.
More than the money spent, I think properly planning the wedding is more important than just throwing cash at it. Tasteful design, attire, food/drink, music etc makes a wedding stand out in my mind.