Originally Posted by globetrotter
no, I grew up. sorry, but that is the difference between being a boy and a man. men make choices, and decide where the best place to put their efforts and their money. boys whine and have tantrums and cut off their nose to spite their face.
Age does make a difference, especially for people too young to have ever seriously considered marriage. I had no idea how I'd approach the issue, wasn't even sure I wanted
to get married, then I met the right woman and things started changing in my life. I even process a lot of songs differently.
if you are a man, you basically get to run your family life for 50 years. you decide where you live, how you live, what the family spends money on. your wife gets to decide a handful of things - one of them being the wedding. men have usually put about 15 minutes thought into the wedding "oh, hey, a barbeque would be cool". women have put 20 years thought into it. let her have her way for 3 hours, you get your way for 50 years. how hard is that to understand?
I would say an increasing number of marriages do not work that way anymore. Mine certainly doesn't. We make most decisions together, especially things that strongly affect both of us. I'd never try to put my foot down on where we move, etc. Her career is just as important as mine, she gets an equal voice on damn near everything. Wedding was the same way, I didn't care about a lot of the details and let her run with it, but it wasn't "her day" or anything like that.