Married SFers: How much did your wedding cost? - Page 15

Like...179 degrees obtuse yo.

no, deciding to make somebody else happy when that isn't exactly what you want to do, makes you a man.

believe it or not, that was one pitch I made to my wife. didn't work. I did get the jazz marching band, though.

hahahahahah exactly!



i don't think it's going to change with age. i'm 20 now....not saying i'm getting married any time soon but i find it hard to believe that my opinion will change simply because of age, especially considering i may get married (who knows?) within the next 6 or so years for all i know.

i'm not saying you can't have an expensive wedding, though. but i am saying that if you can only afford X out of pocket and your girl is demanding Y you may have more trouble down the road than you're bargaining for. that's all i'msaying.

I know what he is saying, but his notion is ridiculous. "I get to control our lives for the most part, so as a man, I am going to give her the special day she has always wanted".

Like I said, My wife and I talk about everything and make decisions together no matter how big or small. That is a marriage. Not some guy saying that he will make most of the decisions in a marriage and for that ability, he will give his wife a Cinderella wedding.

Well if a 100K+ wedding is what your woman needs to make her happy, so be it. It seems plenty of people have women that are as equally happy with a small intimate wedding.

Well, I didn't pay a dime, nor do either me or my wife have any idea what it cost (father in law picked up the tab 100%). But my father in law continues to refer to it as one of the single greatest days of his life (and hopefully not just because I took on responsibility for his daughter...).

Again, I don't know what it would cost. But what would I pay for the greatest day of my life? I don't think the $$$ would matter much at the end of the day.

I did pay for the honeymoon, which was pretty expensive, but worth every penny (and then some).

well, my wife wanted a 30 K wedding, and her family paid for most of it. I wanted something different - I wanted a small wedding that I could pay for. we spent a lot of time arguing about it that was wasted time. if she had wanted something that would have involved going into debt for 2 years, yes, I wouldn't have given it to her. but the OP is asking about a difference of 10 K, that he can afford but doesn't want to spend.

most of the people here are talking like they simply have never met a woman - frankly, the man really doesn't need to get involved in wedding planning, it is a waste of energy.


and good for them. to each their own. I would also say if a man wanted a huge wedding, and his wife wanted a small wedding, don't get involved, let your wife have the wedding she wants.



its worked for a thousand generations, I see no reason to change things now.

How much did you spend on your wedding? Applying your own reasoning, that amount (however great or small) must be what you believe your wife needs to be happy. So, I hope you can see why your reasoning is ridiculous.

Nobody is arguing that one's happiness depends on spending a certain amount of money--except for you, by implication.

You can't be this dense.

Because maybe your wife has her own opinion that you should value when it comes to how you live the rest of your lives.

aren't you cute?

We got married at City Hall and had a small gathering of friends and family after, because getting married was all we cared about. Not some overpriced party.

Simple equation. Happy wife = Happy Life

What would your wife say about that?

if someone else is paying for the wedding i couldnt give a shit how big it is. go crazy.