Originally Posted by Mad Hatter
Well if a 100K+ wedding is what your woman needs to make her happy, so be it.
well, my wife wanted a 30 K wedding, and her family paid for most of it. I wanted something different - I wanted a small wedding that I could pay for. we spent a lot of time arguing about it that was wasted time. if she had wanted something that would have involved going into debt for 2 years, yes, I wouldn't have given it to her. but the OP is asking about a difference of 10 K, that he can afford but doesn't want to spend.
most of the people here are talking like they simply have never met a woman - frankly, the man really doesn't need to get involved in wedding planning, it is a waste of energy.
It seems plenty of people have women that are as equally happy with a small intimate wedding.
and good for them. to each their own. I would also say if a man wanted a huge wedding, and his wife wanted a small wedding, don't get involved, let your wife have the wedding she wants.
know what he is saying, but his notion is ridiculous. "I get to control our lives for the most part, so as a man, I am going to give her the special day she has always wanted".
Like I said, My wife and I talk about everything and make decisions together no matter how big or small. That is a marriage. Not some guy saying that he will make most of the decisions in a marriage and for that ability, he will give his wife a Cinderella wedding.
its worked for a thousand generations, I see no reason to change things now.