Originally Posted by coolpapaboze
Big weddings are, in my opinion, an expensive party thrown for the benefit of people other than the bride and groom. It's stressful, expensive, and the bride and groom rarely even get to enjoy any of the festivities, like eating and drinking. I've never understood the appeal, never wanted one myself, and a disagreement like the one between the OP and his fiancee' is, in my opinion, a harbinger of things to come in the marriage.
I enjoyed the hell out of my wedding. One of the best days of my life, from start to finish
Sure we were running around like crazy, but it was just a lot of fun, and we were the center of attention in a very natural and non-obnoxious way. Also got to bring a bunch of family circles together for perhaps the only time, which is kind of neat.
Neither of us was very picky about the details and didn't really stress too much about them. I'm sure plenty of stuff wasn't perfect but we really didn't notice. I actually got to eat, but barely tasted the food that I ate.
Agreed that people who have big fights with their fiancee about the wedding are in for a rough time. I wouldn't be happy with a woman who had a big princess complex about the wedding, I don't believe that stuff is ever really isolated to just the wedding. We spent a lot of money, but it was about everybody (including us) having a good time, not some fairytale from childhood embodied.