Originally Posted by GQgeek
Unmarried but I wholly endorse this message. Invite your closest friends and keep it small, not everyone on your facebook page. Destination weddings are great b/c they can keep costs down and they probably make it really easy to explain to everyone why they weren't invited. Some chicks have to have the big wedding though... Good luck dude.
Oh and I don't know what you make, but 30k for a lot of middle income people is like 2 years' savings... Do the math on investing that over 40 years and see what your wedding really costs. :P
I disagree strongly with the destination wedding idea. That's basically transferring the cost of the wedding onto the guests. Speaking generally, I'm not a fan of destination weddings, but I think it's particularly poor form to ask people to travel when one in 10 Americans doesn't have a job.
Originally Posted by globetrotter
ok, here's the deal. you are going to get married, and it will be the way your fiance wants it. you can fight it all you want, but it will just cause a lot of grief.
the 10K difference isn't worth destroying your relationship.
I wanted to have a small wedding that I could pay for. my wife wanted a big wedding that her grandfather would pay for. I fought the whole way, and it became very ugly and stressful. this isn't where you want to fight. enjoy the wedding.
I (mostly) agree with this. I let MrsG pretty well do what she wanted, though her mother paid for most of it, and we weren't looking at $25k. Our wedding was expensive, but it wasn't that
It seems to me that there has to be some kind of middle ground for you guys - perhaps you can propose a comprmise that meets in the middle?
Either way, unless it's going to destroy you financially, you may be better off grinning and bearing most of it.