Originally Posted by texas_jack
Give a good reference. You care more about a company than your friend?
It's not about the company, it's about being honest. I have always put morality and the "right thing" above my friends and people around me. I'm not "out to get them" and wont overtly screw them when I can "plead the fifth" but if I am in a position where I either have to do something morally reprehensible or do the right thing, I'm going to do the right thing. More often than not the repercussions that the people involved suffer are their own doing.
I've lost a lot of friends because they're of the character that I try to avoid. They are generally nice people, but just have a different view on things and are out to get theirs. I don't have as many friends, but those I do have( for the most part) don't do anything I wouldn't do.
An example of many- I was riding in my friends car late at night in his ghetto drug dealer style Escalade(my mistake). We get pulled over, pulled out of the car, searched etc. My friend(the driver) was tipsy and he was not of age - they proceed to search the car. In the trunk the find a good amount of weed. The officers separately question us and one of them says we will both be charged unless I say something. So in this situation, I can roll over my friend or take a drug charge that I had absolutely nothing to deal with and had no idea it was there. I rolled over on him in a heartbeat. Now, should I have distanced myself from him from the beginning knowing that he was into that sort of thing - were the drugs an inherent risk to our friendship that I should have accepted from the beginning? Perhaps, but lesson learned. I don't associate with those sort of people anymore.
It might be selfish, and I might be an asshole because of it, but I am NOT going to fuck my life up to because of someones elses choices. If I'm a prick, so be it.
However unrelated to the current predicament, you can see my stance on things. I do not know the individual in question in a work environment, merely on a personal level. I can't just "fluff up" the reference because there are specific questions, "have you known person to regularly be dishonest" etc etc. Again, I know this guy doesn't sound like a great friend but I have known him for 20 years and can't just cut it off abruptly.
I think I will just decline to fulfill the paperwork, but what do I say if he asks me about it?