Originally Posted by globetrotter
ok, next question -
your kid goes on a playdate with a friends family to lunch and then walk around chinatown. you give him 10 dollars from his savings to spend.
he comes home, and says that he ran out of money and asked his friends mother for more money to buy an additional knicknack, spending a total of 14 dollars - so he tells you that he took 4 bucks from the mother.
what do you do?
Make him pay her back. Make him earn the 4$ doing some small but meaningful work.
It would also depend on their relationship and how often if ever you give their kid money/toys. If you have a close relationship that might not be that strange, if he is working her he needs to be set straight.
I don't think it's wrong to accept gifts from other peoples parents but kids need to learn boundaries and not to take advantage of another's generosity.
I had a similar situation recently.
My 10 year old boy came back from spending the weekend with my brother and his wife and had a new (small) lego toy. He told me she bought it for him. At first I was kind of pissed as I had given him money and wanted to make sure he had not manipulated the situation to end up in that particular toy store. After some reflection and clarification I just let it go, I don't think he had done anything wrong and I buy her kids things from time to time as well.