ok, so another what would you do question
there is a girl in my girls' class that is a holy terror, not just your normal badly behaved kid, the type of kid that every other kid hates. she has hit or bitten every kid in the class, she has broken people's stuff, she teases the other kids, etc. in any situation where she is with other kids from the class, the situation explodes into crying kids. one of my girls literally didn't want to go to school for a period of weeks because of this kid. but it isn't just my kids.
the other thing is that the parents are just horrible, they don't understand that this isn't normal, and they haven't really tried to address the issue. they are a little younger, and pretty clueless about a lot of stuff, but they are totally oblivious to the problem.
anyway, over the course of the year, the other mothers, inlcuding my wife, have stopped including the girl and her mother in play dates and various things. today, 3 mothers decided to have a picknick on the beach after school. the other mother asked them each specifically if they wanted to do something with her, and they each sort of mumbled something, basically trying to ignore her.
so I joined the 3 mothers and the daughers for the picknick today, and the mother of the bad kid and the bad kid show up, by chance, at the same beach playground. it was really awkward.
now my wife is feeling really bad over the thing, and is contemplating sending an email basicaly saying "ok, sorry about that, but you have to understand that your kid is a problem, you will be starting a new school in the fall, maybe you want to spend the summer working on your kids social skills and getting her ready for the new school".
my wife posted this on UB, and she was torn appart - the UB mom's think that she is a reincarnation of hitler, basically.
what do you think?