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post #91 of 112
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Originally Posted by style_goat View Post
Phone conversations are more intrusive on one's time. They have their merits, but I would prefer to speak face-to-face, at least with texting you don't have to think on your feet as much and you'll more likely say the right thing if you have a few seconds more to think it over, also texting is not susceptible to awkward silences.

LOL, how do you survive in public situations? Texting has its place, but a phone call is better for asking someone out. You aren't in high school anymore are you?
post #92 of 112
texting says, look i don't have the balls to face rejection so I am goin to ask you out in the most indrect way I possibly can. If you don't have the balls to pick up a woman and.. tell her that you are going to come pick her up, then you don't need the date in the first place. Texting has it's place. asking girls out, talking to girls period is not it. texting is what girls do with each other at school. Men call a woman and say look, this is what I plan to do, you either down or you ain't. plus, in a text, you can't pick up on the idiosyncrasies in her voice, the possible hesitation or the possible over excitement to see you, all that stuff is important. in a text, you can't tell if that excuse is BS, well you probably can't in phone either but I you have a better chance to. You text a girl, off the bat, she knows she is dealing with a chump. While she won't come out and say it, some dont even know it, women want to be swept off their feet, and the bottom line is, a woman doesn't get.. you know.. thinking about a guy texting her out. women want a confident man, not a guy who is too chumpish to face asking a girl on a date. she knows you aren't going to go in for a kiss, she knows you aren't going to be aggressive you can't even pick up the fucking phone and ask her out. If you are that scared rehease it, but this is a must, no exceptions. And if she says no, it's her loss, move on.
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Woman: someone who knows what she wants, doesn't play games, mature, has outgrown social stigmas/peer pressures and makes her own decisions, doesn't let society and/or peers to make decisions for her etc.
i.e sagging titty syndrome
post #93 of 112
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Originally Posted by christinedaae View Post
texting says, look i don't have the balls to face rejection so I am goin to ask you out in the most indrect way I possibly can. If you don't have the balls to pick up a woman and.. tell her that you are going to come pick her up, then you don't need the date in the first place.

Texting has it's place. asking girls out, talking to girls period is not it.


texting is what girls do with each other at school. Men call a woman and say look, this is what I plan to do, you either down or you ain't. plus, in a text, you can't pick up on the idiosyncrasies in her voice, the possible hesitation or the possible over excitement to see you, all that stuff is important. in a text, you can't tell if that excuse is BS, well you probably can't in phone either but I you have a better chance to.

You text a girl, off the bat, she knows she is dealing with a chump. While she won't come out and say it, some dont even know it, women want to be swept off their feet, and the bottom line is, a woman doesn't get.. you know.. thinking about a guy texting her out. women want a confident man, not a guy who is too chumpish to face asking a girl on a date. she knows you aren't going to go in for a kiss, she knows you aren't going to be aggressive you can't even pick up the fucking phone and ask her out. If you are that scared rehease it, but this is a must, no exceptions. And if she says no, it's her loss, move on.

+1000.
post #94 of 112
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Originally Posted by christinedaae View Post
texting says, look i don't have the balls to face rejection so I am goin to ask you out in the most indrect way I possibly can. If you don't have the balls to pick up a woman and.. tell her that you are going to come pick her up, then you don't need the date in the first place.

Texting has it's place. asking girls out, talking to girls period is not it.


texting is what girls do with each other at school. Men call a woman and say look, this is what I plan to do, you either down or you ain't. plus, in a text, you can't pick up on the idiosyncrasies in her voice, the possible hesitation or the possible over excitement to see you, all that stuff is important. in a text, you can't tell if that excuse is BS, well you probably can't in phone either but I you have a better chance to.

You text a girl, off the bat, she knows she is dealing with a chump. While she won't come out and say it, some dont even know it, women want to be swept off their feet, and the bottom line is, a woman doesn't get.. you know.. thinking about a guy texting her out. women want a confident man, not a guy who is too chumpish to face asking a girl on a date. she knows you aren't going to go in for a kiss, she knows you aren't going to be aggressive you can't even pick up the fucking phone and ask her out. If you are that scared rehease it, but this is a must, no exceptions. And if she says no, it's her loss, move on.
+a million, particularly the bolded.

Most women screen their phone calls, so be prepared with the message you're going to leave. The briefer, the better.
post #95 of 112
you dudes need to remember that girls poop too, and it stinks worse than yours.
post #96 of 112
i kinda of disagree. it use to be more appropriate and manly to call, but you have to understand the shift in culture nowadays. i've been meeting women younger (early 20s) and honestly they like it when i text and ask me to do so. its just the new way to communicate. also i've been told it's like sending an email, it gives them space and time to breathe, so it's less pressure to have to reply to someone whenever they want. it's a texting world with kids nowadays, ask any teenager in particular.
post #97 of 112
Most girls are fine with texting. Particularly if you met her at abar and it's not love at first sight. If I want to take the girl seriously I'll definitely call.
post #98 of 112
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Originally Posted by blazingazn View Post
i kinda of disagree.
it use to be more appropriate and manly to call, but you have to understand the shift in culture nowadays.

i've been meeting women younger (early 20s) and honestly they like it when i text and ask me to do so. its just the new way to communicate.

also i've been told it's like sending an email, it gives them space and time to breathe, so it's less pressure to have to reply to someone whenever they want.

it's a texting world with kids nowadays, ask any teenager in particular.

Hence the post by christinedaae above (texting may be okay for younger ones if that's the demographic you are interested in).
post #99 of 112
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Originally Posted by blazingazn View Post
i kinda of disagree. it use to be more appropriate and manly to call, but you have to understand the shift in culture nowadays. i've been meeting women younger (early 20s) and honestly they like it when i text and ask me to do so. its just the new way to communicate. also i've been told it's like sending an email, it gives them space and time to breathe, so it's less pressure to have to reply to someone whenever they want. it's a texting world with kids nowadays, ask any teenager in particular.
Makes sense. Friggin whippersnappers. Get off my lawn!
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Originally Posted by Jodum5 View Post
Most girls are fine with texting. Particularly if you met her at abar and it's not love at first sight. If I want to take the girl seriously I'll definitely call.
That's why Showtime should rename Dexter to Texter. Get the early 20s demographic in there.
post #100 of 112
Right..
post #101 of 112
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Originally Posted by Pollux View Post
General rule of thumb: Girls like it when guys don't play the same games they do. Don't overthink it.

this^ being spontaneous is alot more fun than thinking. I'm not condoning being outright crazy but a little excitements is always a good thing.
post #102 of 112
when i meet a girl at a bar, Ill flirt a bit..then get her number. after that, ill go to the end of the bar, text her "lets go see whats in the bathroom....i bet its my dick"

2 days later, theres no need to call or text. Im getting old...i dont have time to wait around, take her out, buy drinks, a movie, dinner, then another date..blah blah....THEN hit it. sheesh.
post #103 of 112
If I don't close the deal by the first date (which is rare), I delete her number immediately.
post #104 of 112
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Originally Posted by DerekS View Post
2 days later, theres no need to call or text. Im getting old...i dont have time to wait around, take her out, buy drinks, a movie, dinner, then another date..blah blah....THEN hit it. sheesh.

+100. That stuff gets old fast.
post #105 of 112
So I was hanging out with a friend of a friend yesterday, at the end of the night I asked her to go out for coffee sometime, which she was good with. However, I am leaving for a vacation in a week, for a week, and will have no time between now and then to meet with her or to see her. I really have no reason to contact her prior to coming back from my trip and actually asking her out. Plus we had hung out in a group a few times already prior to me asking her and have already kinda asked the basic questions and stuff. What's my play here?
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