Originally Posted by Manton
Sator: on the other hand, sometimes new people come here -- normal guys, not obsessives like us -- and all they want is good advice on what to wear to their wedding. But what they get instead is a treatise on formal day wear (not pointing fingers; I am guilty of this myself) when they have no idea of or intention to wear striped pants, a morning coat, and buff linen DB vest and find the whole idea preposterous. It's like asking for a recommendation of a decent bistro on the East Side and being told "Daniel." Sort of.
I suppose it is incumbent on us to raise the possibilty of formal and semi-formal day wear, but if in the end kitano is not induced to share in our mania, then we might as well accept that and help the guy improve his appearance a little within the confines of what is customary these days. One must after all live in one's time.
Point taken Manton.
You will surely understand that it is difficult to resist the temptation to try to inspire our fellow forum members to rise to the grand occasion and to match our brides, to shine brighter than we had ever dreamt imaginable - and above all to infuse courage to refuse to be an a priori satorial second place on the Big Day. Is that not perchance a noble and even necessary thing?
Do you not also think that if this were a women's fashion forum one would imagine a significant proportion of the posts might be taken up by discussions of wedding attire (for the bridesmaids, as well as the bride) and that it would raise passionate, heated discusssion. So - guys! - where is the passionate, heated discussion when it comes to dressing the groom? Would it not be a tragedy if we were only to ever become passionate when discussing business attire???
So in other words, a wedding is surely the moment to a wax lyrical about the joys of a function at 'Daniel' rather than recommending that cheap bistro on the East Side?