Styleforum › Forums › General › General Chat › Girlfriend's Crazy Ex-Boyfriend - what to do?
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:

Girlfriend's Crazy Ex-Boyfriend - what to do? - Page 3

post #31 of 286
12/8/10 at 2:59pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by mharwitt View Post
looking forward to the 2012 "I can't believe I just spent the past two years of my life with this girl" thread.

That's if the guy doesn't cut his penis off.
Reply
Reply
post #32 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:00pm
[Matt]Take up boxing and learn how to throw a right cross.[/Matt]

This is probably your best course of action to defend yourself if necessary.
Reply
Reply
post #33 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:01pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Teacher View Post
I'm not sure about where you live, but temporary restraining orders are issued by the police (usually, at least) and aren't really that hard to get (again, usually). No lawyers are needed. Beyond that, I'm not sure. And of course, Ambulance Chaser is right: it's not a guarantee of protection. Still, if he violates it in any way, he can get into trouble, a restraining order is better than not having one.

Okay, thanks. I'll inquire about it when I speak with the police later on. I'm in Ontario, Canada, fwiw. And yes, I'm well aware that it won't physically stop anything, but it would be reassuring to know that if he walked into my work, anyone could call and have him arrested. I'm more worried about the immediate physical threat of an attack if he were to show up unannounced and try something. But I'm aware that short of a gun (which isn't a possibility because I'm in canada) or a 24/7 bodyguard, there isn't really much I can do.
Reply
Reply
post #34 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:04pm
So does the OP have his own place?

Going to get a RO with a note? Doubtful.
Reply
Reply
post #35 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:05pm
Incman: How old are you? TyC
Reply
Reply
post #36 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:05pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by mharwitt View Post
alright, but leaving really isn't as hard as you're making it, and in this instance is a)probably worth it, and b) will solve the problem you began this thread for. two months is smitten, not love.

incidentally i'm willing to bet that she won't file any restraining order and he won't come after you.

looking forward to the 2012 "I can't believe I just spent the past two years of my life with this girl" thread.


As I mentioned earlier, I have known her about a year and a half, and we have been developing feelings for each other for much longer than 2 months, so I'm not sure In regards to b), me leaving now wouldn't change his feelings towards me, so it's a moot point.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Ambulance Chaser View Post
[Matt]Take up boxing and learn how to throw a right cross.[/Matt]

This is probably your best course of action to defend yourself if necessary.

I've been considering taking up some form of martial art for a couple months now...this may be the spark I need to do it.
Reply
Reply
post #37 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:07pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by Incman View Post
Much easier said than done.
Bull. Life needn't be full of this melodramatic crap ... and that's just what this is.
Reply
Reply
post #38 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:08pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Crane's View Post
So does the OP have his own place?

Going to get a RO with a note? Doubtful.

No, I don't. I'm living with family while I go to school. (P.s., not a trust-fund kid. Broke as hell, pay room/board, work 20ish hours a week, pay for my own schooling, no car, straight As and motivated/hardworking). And yeah, as mentioned I don't know how a RO works, just that I'll inquire about it.

Quote:
Originally Posted by TyCooN View Post
Incman:

How old are you?

TyC

19
Reply
Reply
post #39 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:12pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by RSS View Post
Given the circumstances ... I'd remove myself as far as possible from all involved ... including the girl.

+1, haven't read past this post, clearly, a 19 y.o. boy shouldn't be thinking about love and can certainly get over it.
Reply
Reply
post #40 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:13pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by Joenobody0 View Post
You sound like a codependent teenager who wants the thrill of saving a girl who's "really worth it" and "been through some hard times". Do whatever you want and maybe some day you'll grow up.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Incman View Post
Not even close.

Quote:
Originally Posted by Incman View Post
...I'm in love with this girl, and I know we'll be together for a long time. Perhaps it's the dumb teenager in me (inb4 someone bolds and +1's that), but I'm willing to put up with the baggage because she's more than worth it.


You do not know in any way that you're going to be together for a long period of time. You're a 19 year old kid. She's a mentally fucked up 21 year old kid. She's not worth it. You need to focus on going to school (if you're already there, then take more or harder classes) and making something out of your life. Not fucking around with bullshit like this.
Reply
Reply
post #41 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:14pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by forex View Post
+1, haven't read past this post, clearly, a 19 y.o. boy shouldn't be thinking about love and can certainly get over it.

At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?
Reply
Reply
post #42 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:16pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by Joenobody0 View Post
You do not know in any way that you're going to be together for a long period of time. You're a 19 year old kid. She's a mentally fucked up 21 year old kid. She's not worth it. You need to focus on going to school (if you're already there, then take more or harder classes) and making something out of your life. Not fucking around with bullshit like this.

Maybe I'll look back in 10 years and regret, but on the other hand I'm quite sure I won't. I'm in school doing all the right things, and having a gf isn't/wont affect that. She's not mentally fucked up, she's very realistic and down to earth.
Reply
Reply
post #43 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:18pm
Thread Starter 
Quote:
Originally Posted by kwilkinson View Post
At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?

Good question. I didn't choose for it to happen, and I can't just throw it away (not that I'd want to). I guess it's just human nature to look down on people younger than yourself.
Reply
Reply
post #44 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:19pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by kwilkinson View Post
At what age, exactly, is someone allowed to fall in love?

no younger than 25,how old are you? 22? go back to your kitchen, boy.
Reply
Reply
post #45 of 286
12/8/10 at 3:20pm
Quote:
Originally Posted by Incman View Post
Good question. I didn't choose for it to happen, and I can't just throw it away (not that I'd want to). I guess it's just human nature to look down on people younger than yourself.

I don't think anyone is looking down on you,I think people are speaking out of experience. Believe you me, you will forget this girl in no time and it will probably be in your best interest.
Reply
Reply
New Posts  All Forums:Forum Nav:
  Return Home
  Back to Forum: General Chat
Styleforum › Forums › General › General Chat › Girlfriend's Crazy Ex-Boyfriend - what to do?