Originally Posted by JLibourel
To the OP: Lad, I am almost 50 years older than you. I have been through a lot of weird scenes with women in my time, probably more than most of the fellows here. One of my ex-wives blew herself up a couple months after our marriage ended, the second disappeared mysteriously shortly after our divorce became final, to give just a couple of examples.
Heed the voice of wisdom and experience: If this young woman wants to get out her situation with her boyfriend, she'll do it, with or without you. Otherwise, just give the situation a wide berth, as so many others have said. It just spells "trouble" with a capital T.
Moreover, you're 19, living at home, and going to college. You are in no position to be "rescuing" any woman, and rescuing is a foolish policy anyway. When you've got a full-time job and steady income, then is the time to be looking for a woman...if you absolutely must have one. ("Beware of what you want, you may get it" --that maxim never holds so true as when it applies to women, the foul-tempered creatures that they are.)
With all that said, had the same situation arisen for me when I was 19, I'd no doubt have been as big or bigger a romantic fool than you seem to be. Good luck, whatever happens, I think you'll need it.
On the practical side, if he does come after you, consider "improvised" weapons. A wine bottle makes a very effective mace, for example.
Thanks for the words of advice. I'm not quite sure what you mean by rescuing her; that's not the way the situation is at all. She will be moving in with her mother in a week or two, as soon as she is able to help her mom clean up her place (a small bachelor with a ton of stuff in it), and finish packing her things. With no car, and working 6 days a week, it is pretty difficult.
Originally Posted by R-H
OP, I'd be careful of this woman's boyfriend. They have been together 5 years, and are currently living together so I imagine he is quite possessive of her.
Also, not to be vulgar, but have you had sex with this woman? She lives with her boyfriend, and you live with your parents - something doesn't add up here.
Her boyfriend could be a pyscho, I'd tread carefully.
He's not her boyfriend anymore, and hasn't been for several months. After talking with her more about him, its pretty safe to assume he's not, and that the note was just him venting. Of course it's challenging to get over a breakup with someone you still have strong feelings for, and that is compounded by the fact that he still has to see her almost everyday. It doesn't affect her because she hasn't felt anything romantically for him in over a year, so he is nothing more than a roommate to her. And yes, of course we've had sex.