do you think this is a date? - Page 2

what a coincidence! i offer women to sleep with me and they laugh continuously!!

GQg: not to burst your bubble, but I think this scenario leads to disappointment and heartache. I'll wager your insistence that this is "not a date" has reassured her that it is, indeed, not a date. For that reason, she does not see a need to inform you of her orientation. I hope I am wrong. Crank your hopes back down a little bit and go have fun. And as others have said, just let happen what happens.

If she agreed to go dancing with you then, not only is it a date, she is also attracted to you too. She would have declined otherwise as she likely gets many offers as you suspect. If you don't screw it up and continue entertaining her and maintaining the chemistry that night, she will sleep with you. After the dance lessons, I would not go to a club but to a quieter bar, lounge, resto... to have a little more intimacy and one-on-one conversation and make her feel comfortable enought to go back to your place (or hers). Just have fun like you seem to have been doing all along and you'll be fine - enjoy!

edit: btw, whatever you do, do not get all romantic and sappy with her. If she is indeed les/bi, then treat it as good casual sex between friends and see where it goes. You will scare her off if she thinks you are falling hard for her.

God I'm glad I'm married.

+1

I disagree with that generalization. Having been into the local swing/lindy "scene" for many years, a lot of girls will go out with a guy dancing/taking lessons, but they don't see it as a date. At some point I imagine GQgeek will ask her out to dinner, and then there will be no question it is a date and he'll know whether she's interested or just a "really cool chick" that has no romantic interest. If you keep your social activites to just dancing you'll never really know what her intentions are.

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GQgeek,


first of all, how credible are your sources who have indicated that she might be gay? I´m not sure if I understand this correctly, but for my part I really have to say that I wouldn´t keep too much faith with someone who talks about other peoples´ sexual preferences in such a unreserved manner like the gay guy seems to have done.
I hope this will not turn out to be a disappointed to you, especially since you already seem to be more emotionally involved than it might be healthy for you. In any case, try to slow down a little.

Perhaps that's true in a more general case (or with people familar with the scene, which she is not) but if this chick is the hottest, ex-model, hairdresser that gets hit on all the time by clients, I believe she understands that agreeing to go dancing with one implies a certain degree of interest in more than just a "friendly" outing.

Ah, I miss my hometown sometimes... or maybe it's a misplaced nostalgia for those bygone bachelor days, which I would never trade for my life now.

story I haven't told in years, but I think a pretty good story:

I'm 19, a soldier, pretty horny, and in all in all really good shape. i have a nice uniform and a pretty red beret. anyway, I meet this girl, who is pretty hot, red haired, wearing a skirt. we talk, flirt a little, and I offer to buy her a drink - this was in the middle of jerusalem, where there is an area with street muscisians and people selling art and stuff. we sit down to have a drink, and she tells me that she is in town for a wedding of a friend, who she met at a religious high school (she is american, and had studied at a relgious high school in israel for american girls). so, I figure, ok, relgious girl, I just wasted a drink. but we sit there for a few hours, and it is very nice, she seems really nice, and into me, but the whole time I am figuring that she is religious and so nothing is going to happen. (by the way, this ties in with last years thread about religous girls)

anyway, about midnight, I start walking her "home" - it turns out she is staying in the dorm of her old school for the weding weekend. this is the dorm room of a religious girls high school, remember. so, we get to the dorm, and she lets me in, but warns me we have to be quiet. we sit i the little kichenette for an hour or so, and drink some wine that was in the fridge. and then she says "you know, I'm not going to sleep with you", which, considering that I hadn't said anything about it, I figured was actually a good sign. she continued "nothing personal, I just prefer girls". which totally blew me away. so, she tells me how she slept with 8 guys during her year at religious high school, went home and started NYU and discovered girls, and liked that alot more. so, i basically, like any good horny 19 year old, said something along the lines of "well, how about we fool around?", and after maybe 5 minutes, she said "well, ok, you can fuck me, but don't think that you are going to convert me or anything" (the essence of romance). so, end up having sex on a single ben, in a room full of religious high school girls, and end up waking a few of them up, with all the accompaning screems and screaches. in the middle, she had the presence of mind to tell me that she still prefered girls.


the other one was a girl I had known for years, who was pretty hot, but in a quiet way. I asked her out, and she said "zach, I have a girlfriend"

Good story, globe. Were you a combat controller in the USAF?

no, IDF paratrooper

Great story Zach. And this ties directly into the Streetwear thread concerning Nudies: SHRINKAGE!!!!!!!

So she might be bi and she asked you out?

I have two words for you....

Three Way