Let me also clear up one thing; The groom rented his tux? I can't imagine that this is common practice considering brides pay in the thousands for their gowns. I'd use this as an excuse to drop a few grand at Brioni for myself; though I guess that most men could care less.
Well, I probably would, too; but we're not exactly in the mainstream of the population, and we're not the ones who will be calling the shots when planning for our weddings. Most men would not be interested in dropping any amount of money or time on something that they won't wear again. Most women don't care about the quality of what the groom wears so long as it looks good in pictures, and they realize that every cent spent on the groom's attire is a cent less available to be spent on flowers or the reception or her dress. (I'm making the assumption here that it's the bride and groom who are putting up most of the money and making the purchasing decisions instead of the bride's family paying for the wedding and the groom paying for the expenses, like his attire, that is traditionally assignable to him. This is because this has been the case for every wedding that I've been involved with, however tangentially.) <begin rant> This is a sore subject for me. It drives me crazy that everybody thinks that you just have
to dress the groom, the fathers of the bride and groom, and the groomsmen in matching tuxedo-inspired clothing regardless of the time of day that the wedding is taking place and the standard of dress that the guests will have. It drives me crazy that people regard weddings as theatre, complete with a performers who have to be costumed. It drives me crazy that people think that wearing an ill-fitting, poorly constructed, tuxedo-inspired POS with plastic shoes is somehow classy. It drives me crazy that people think that everybody in the wedding party has to have exactly matching dress just like servants wearing an 18th century aristocrat's livery. It's ridiculous. <end rant> The first time I had to wear the plastic shoes to be a groomsman in a friend's wedding, I vowed that I wouldn't ever do that again, My feet hurt too much, and the shoes themselves were just too disgusting for me to contemplate doing that again. I bought my own formal shoes, and I've never worn the rented ones again, despite pressure from various sources not to wear shoes that don't "match" what all the other groomsmen are wearing. I'm willing to go to considerable lengths to accomodate the whims of the bride and groom on their wedding day. I'll pretty much do anything they want so long as it's not illegal or immoral. I won't, however, wear plastic shoes. I once was "diagnosed" as having mental problems when I posted the suggestion on another message board that a bride might be better off if her groom wore a well-fitting suit that he owned rather than a rented tuxedo that had the trouser hem done with nylon fishing line (I've seen this done). Silly me. Most brides seem to be looking for validation of their preconceived notions about what their wedding should be rather than advice.