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post #1 of 46
11/1/10 at 10:56pm
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So, this new girl started like 6 months ago. She's perfect, and everything I look for. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. She has told me twice (both while drunk) that if she didn't have a boyfriend that she would date me... So I have heard her talking about going out with other guys, so I need to make my move. However since we work together and in tight quarters i have a few questions.
- What do I say to her?
-how do I make it not awkward?
-Anything else i should do?
-what are some good ways to ask someone out?

Sorry i know we all hate these threads.
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post #2 of 46
11/2/10 at 12:32am
I'd start with, "let's follow through on the conversations we had (insert date here)." This isn't like trying to decide to snip the red wire or the black wire thereby saving Earth from complete destruction. Go for it.
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post #3 of 46
11/2/10 at 12:44am
id start with posting a pic so we know what we're working with
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post #4 of 46
11/2/10 at 11:16am
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Originally Posted by swoll50 View Post
id start with posting a pic so we know what we're working with

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post #5 of 46
11/2/10 at 12:03pm
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Originally Posted by mikeman View Post
So, this new girl started like 6 months ago. She's perfect, and everything I look for. She recently broke up with her boyfriend. She has told me twice (both while drunk) that if she didn't have a boyfriend that she would date me... So I have heard her talking about going out with other guys, so I need to make my move. However since we work together and in tight quarters i have a few questions.
- What do I say to her?
-how do I make it not awkward?
-Anything else i should do?
-what are some good ways to ask someone out?

Sorry i know we all hate these threads.

You work in the same exact office and it's small? I'd say don't do it. However, if you insist, invite her out to lunch. Or drinks.
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post #6 of 46
11/2/10 at 2:42pm
I don't shit where I eat.

I'm not saying you shouldn't, just saying that's my philosophy. It definitely removes a portion of women (depending on your career) from the pool so to speak, but I meet enough outside of work that I'm fine.
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post #7 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:17pm
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Thanks guys. I know, generally I wouldn't ask anyone from work.However, we have gone out in a group multiple times, and it was fine at work the next time we worked together. I just need the guts to ask her out. would something like. I just need the right thing to ask her out. need some suggestions.
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post #8 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:28pm
Think of a cool bar that just opened up in your city. Start up a conversation about it. If she expresses disinterest, pick a new bar. If she expresses interest, keep talking and at some point ask, "Would you like to check it out after work on <INSERT DAY>?" She'll understand where you're going.
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post #9 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:36pm
Make it simple... hey, I'm going to blahblah semi-cheap place. You should come. Don't over think it. Since she liked you before, it should be easy to make a connection. If you're nervous, think of her as your silly little sister's friend.
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post #10 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:38pm
She has already said that she's interested on some level. What are you doing this weekend? Want to get a drink Saturday night? Don't over complicate anything. You're not approaching a stranger that you've never said a word to. This girl has already told you she would date you.
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post #11 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:41pm
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Yeah, the thing is, i know she will say yes. Im just nervous on how i want to ask.(which shouldnt be a big deal.at all) Maybe Ill just send her a text "hey want to go out for dinner sometime?" Would that be an ok approach?
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post #12 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:49pm
Don't text her, that will send a message that you don't have a lot of confidence in yourself...ask her face to face.
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post #13 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:51pm
This will only end in disaster. I find disasters entertaining when they do not involve me. I say, go for it and by all means keep us updated.
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post #14 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:52pm
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I was going too, however I would want to keep it on the low down at work for a bit, since everyone is super nosey and they love to gossip. I figured a text would keep it mildly casual too.
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post #15 of 46
11/2/10 at 4:53pm
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Originally Posted by coolpapaboze View Post
This will only end in disaster. I find disasters entertaining when they do not involve me. I say, go for it and by all means keep us updated.

Thanks for the words of encouragement. Thats the beauty of it. I dont think things would be awkward, even if they didn't work out.
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