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post #121 of 131
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im in a long distance relationship with my right hand.

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im in one with my left hand

You guys should get together one day
post #122 of 131
and give each other the clap
post #123 of 131
I haven't personally seen or experienced a long distance relationship that worked out. However, my sister has. In fact one of her friend's parents were in a long distance relationship for many years and they ended up marrying each other. One of her friend's is currently in a long distance relationship. I believe they've been together for a while now and are thinking about marriage. I think she might've said that one of our uncles was in a long distance relationship and married our aunt, but I don't remember. If that's true, then it's an uncle that I pretty much never see.

Anyway, after reading the original post, I thought I'd share something. I currently have four simple rules of life:
  1. Never whine, only take action
  2. Never take any irreversible course of action without thinking of, and accepting, the consequences
  3. Never do anything you'll regret
  4. Do what you like without being afraid of judgment

Rule number 3 has more wiggle room than you may initially think. There's the first obvious interpretation which is as you see it: don't do anything you will regret in the future. And then there's the other interpretation, which is if you do something that's not 100% agreeable, don't dwell on it, but take as many lessons as you can from it.

This may sound very insensitive, but I would also like to point out the BIGGER picture. In the end, things tend to work out. While it may suck that you're not with the girl that you have great feelings for right now, there are many opportunities still available. Another girl will come along who is just as good, or quite possibly even better. That's just always how it works. Earlier you realize this, faster you can move on.
post #124 of 131
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Originally Posted by m@T View Post
and give each other the clap

The sound of one hand clapping?
post #125 of 131
Very often, the very reason for the distance is what makes long-distance relationship fail.

I've experienced that once and I really thought I was going to marry the girl. But she decided not to come with me to NYC when I got into grad school. I think I (consciously or not) resented that decision throughout the remote relationship. I imagine the fact that I decided to leave for two years was the beginning of the end for her too.


So.... VMan, how are you feeling now?
post #126 of 131
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Originally Posted by Berticus View Post
I haven't personally seen or experienced a long distance relationship that worked out. However, my sister has. In fact one of her friend's parents were in a long distance relationship for many years and they ended up marrying each other. One of her friend's is currently in a long distance relationship. I believe they've been together for a while now and are thinking about marriage. I think she might've said that one of our uncles was in a long distance relationship and married our aunt, but I don't remember. If that's true, then it's an uncle that I pretty much never see.

Anyway, after reading the original post, I thought I'd share something. I currently have four simple rules of life:
  1. Never whine, only take action
  2. Never take any irreversible course of action without thinking of, and accepting, the consequences
  3. Never do anything you'll regret
  4. Do what you like without being afraid of judgment

Rule number 3 has more wiggle room than you may initially think. There's the first obvious interpretation which is as you see it: don't do anything you will regret in the future. And then there's the other interpretation, which is if you do something that's not 100% agreeable, don't dwell on it, but take as many lessons as you can from it.

This may sound very insensitive, but I would also like to point out the BIGGER picture. In the end, things tend to work out. While it may suck that you're not with the girl that you have great feelings for right now, there are many opportunities still available. Another girl will come along who is just as good, or quite possibly even better. That's just always how it works. Earlier you realize this, faster you can move on.

how do you do something you know you will regret until you've already done it and realized it was the wrong move?
post #127 of 131
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You guys should get together one day
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and give each other the clap
Thanks Matt, you've made my day!
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have you guys ever seen a long distance relationship ever work out? fuckin stupid of me to think it would work.
I know of only one, but I don't think it was a continuous relationship. Guy went to Europe for a year and then came back. They've never gotten married, but have lived together for 25 years. After about 20 years, he was able to start introducing her as his wife (They're both good friends, but he was a real a-hole about this). Edit: So, Vman, gotten over that break-up yet?
post #128 of 131
Isn't it supposed to take twice as long as the relationship lasted to get over someone?

VMan, I'll check in with you in April 2009.
post #129 of 131
i thought it was half the time? tho im approaching 2/3rds of the relationship and am starting to let go. eventho i have my relapses into... why why why? and wanting to call her and cry.(that rhymed)
post #130 of 131
and all this time i thought we were all friends! i hate you guys!! ahhh!
post #131 of 131
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Isn't it supposed to take twice as long as the relationship lasted to get over someone?

VMan, I'll check in with you in April 2009.

I'll look forward to the thread revival....or perhaps it will still be on page 1.
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