Lasting longer in sex - Page 3

I find that the during the first 20 minutes it's really easy to cum but after that you become a little less sensitive and lets you last longer. I'd say to just pace yourself and don't tire yourself out or you'll never cum. Unless your girl is good at cowgirl style. She's a keeper.

Indeed.

Jon.

maybe you don't like girls.

I'm not sure these drugs are meant for extending ejaculation are they? They are meant for anxiety, depression, and can help with sexual compulsiveness because of the side effects of the drugs. Of course, anxiety could be a cause of premature ejaculation, and I'm being general, but the sexual side affects are side affects from the meds. I've never heard of them being prescribed for premature ejaculation unless the cause is secondary to anxiety.

That's a possibility. Have you tired to have sex with guys to see if you cum?

Jon.

Please don't lecture me about poor man's science when you obviously haven't done the research yourself. Initial estimates were that a relatively small number of patients (i think it was around 15%) would be affected by the sexual side-effects of SSRIs. Once they got out on to the market, psychiatrists realized that the number of people affected was a lot higher than originally estimated. Here's an excerpt from the abstract of a study that was published in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.

"With regard to SSRIs, sexual dysfunction occurs in 50% or more of such patients, which is substantially higher than the rates reported in the Physicians' Desk Reference. The reason for this discrepancy is that patients will not spontaneously report sexual problems and must be questioned about such problems directly"

Hirschfeld, RM. Management of sexual side effects of antidepressant therapy. Journal of Clinical Psychiatry 1999;60(Suppl 14):27-30


SSRIs work very well for treating depression and my understanding is that most patients eventually find ways to deal with the effects, either by switching to a different SSRI, supplementing with various other drugs, decreasing dosage, etc. Some switch off them completely to something like Wellbutrin XR which is generally accepted to be less effective for treating depression but with less side effects. There's obviously no one solution for everybody because it's a complex problem.

As for dosages, I think that should be left to doctors, but you're right, often times docs start off with too high of a dosage because the pharmaceutical companies have a habit of suggesting starting doses which are too high.

Btw, if you agree that 10 minutes is longer than average, then why on earth would you suggest he take an SSRI?

Dude, it's really not a problem and there's no reason to see a doctor. 10 minutes is plenty long for 18. As you have more sex and get older, you'll last longer. Men like to brag about their sexual prowess but I have a lot of female friends that are completely unsatisfied because their boyfriends don't last long enough and it's a touchy subject to bring up. I'm sure their boyfriends all go around saying how much of a stud they are and how much their gf enjoys being pounded by them. It's a lie :P I don't know who you're measuring yourself against but I'd be a little bit sceptical if I were you.

If these are casual hook-ups and the girls are sleeping with other guys, which is likely from the way you describe your situation, I'd advise against going down on them. The last thing you want is herpes or HPV. It's easy miss the symptons and get it anyway. Use fingers instead. Going down on random chicks is really asking for trouble.

I wish I had this problem and I'm being completely serious. I take way, way too long, often to the point of exhaustion, and I think I know why: I think about it too much. I'm very methodical. I think if you're lost in your own head and take a lot of the primality out of it you'll last longer. Might not be as fun, but it works for me (unfortunately).

I agree. I never understand these people that say they wanna have sex for hours at a time. If it's been 20 minutes (of actual intercourse) then it's time to finish. I'll generally get bored if it goes on much longer than that, which it has a couple of times. Besides, there's really no need to go longer if you build the girl up right in the first place.

WHAT?!?

Give yourself permission to cum whenever the hell you want. Why does it always have to be about impressing her and pleasing her? You'll find that it will free you to be more relaxed, and you might find that you have even more control than you thought.

Also, learn how to keep going after you cum. Anyone can learn this, just takes practice, practice, practice. And that is actually a porn secret by the way. A lot of those porn dudes have trained themselves to be able to cum at least twice per scene, but because of editing you don't always realize it.

A third technique is to spend 5 or 10 minutes visualizing yourself being able to last as long as you want. Visualization is very effective, but it must be practiced consistently.

Avoid drugs, avoid trips to the doc, there's nothing wrong with you bro. She's a hot piece of ass, they're supposed to make you want to cum.

- 1. 1999. What doesages were used, ah, they were the dosages to treat depression etc. not to prolong ejac. This is only one author's conclusion. Where's the data? Even then you can debate the the dosages the patient type etc. And even with your supposed conclusion by one author, it still doesn't deny the fact the drug 'DIDN'T' cause problems for 1/2. So why not try it. But in this case he should have a sex cons.

You stated, "I've been on them before and after 30-40 minutes of supreme effort I still wouldn't be any closer. In fact, it's estimated that 30-50% of men taking it experience anorgasmia, ED, or both, which is definitely not a good thing. Some docs supplement with Wellbutrin, which helps in some cases, but there really isn't a solution that works for everyone."

You stated because you had a problem someone else will too and you grouped '"anorgasmia,ED or both with 30-50% of men". Even by your own one study, one author line quoatation, the drugs were not a problem in 1/2 men.

- 2. Levitra has data by itself for ejac. let alone it can be used multi modal with SSRI on lower dosages. Ah, then where is the side effect profile with this combination?

- 3. Just so you know, Urologists prescribe Zoloft for this all the time, everyday, even as we are on this message board. And it can and is dose related. Where's your data again for dosing adjustments?

- 4. What data do have to support "pharmaceutical companies habit of suggesting starting doses which are too high"?

---- Pharamceutical companies use what dosage achieves the best outcome with the best side effect profile and it is approved by the FDA. They do not try to use a higher dose out of habit etc. Please cite the study that support this comment. Good luck on that one.



Also, in this case, a psych consultation would be in order as he's clearly within the norm.

There is a reason to see a sex therpaist at a teaching institution.

Merck/HPV and vaccine:

http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/STDFact-H...ne.htm#hpvvac1
I would strongly urge these 'women' you are with to look into this.

--- You're Urologist has a load of PFE's Zoloft on his shelf right now and has for several years. Urologists don't USUALLY treat depression so I think you realize why PFE samples them and Urologists write prescriptions for Zoloft.

In another study presented at the AUA meeting, the erectile dysfunction drug Levitra appeared to help premature ejaculation.

Frank Sommer, MD, PhD, a urology specialist at the University Medical Centre in Cologne, Germany, reported a small study in which 37 men with premature ejaculation received either Levitra or the SSRI antidepressant Zoloft.

Both drugs improved premature ejaculation severity, although much stronger effects were seen for Levitra than for Zoloft. And Levitra also improved partner sexual satisfaction.

"There is a potential usefulness of [Levitra] as a promising line of therapy in premature ejaculation," Sommer and colleagues wrote in their presentation abstract.

Only one study, but this combination ideally will improve the sexual dysfunction side effect from zoloft(ssri's) if it does 'rear its head'