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Originally Posted by deranged View Post
i'm so fucking stressed. my parents would whip my ass. they already paid the deposit for gradschool...
LOL your parents are paying for your grad school? I'm guessing they bought your car too and probably pay for your apartment. ROFL
post #92 of 521
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Originally Posted by Sherlock View Post
LOL your parents are paying for your grad school? I'm guessing they bought your car too and probably pay for your apartment. ROFL

Sound like sweet parents.
post #93 of 521
Happened to an acquaintance of mine. He's stuck dealing with the consequences to this day. This is not a helpful answer, but this is why i wear condoms even if the chick is on the pill and tells me she'd get an abortion in the event of a pregnancy.

Hope you get a pass on this and if you do I bet you'll never have sex without a condom again. ;p
post #94 of 521
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Originally Posted by HelloIDistance View Post
Deperate times call for desperate measures. If she is 100% for sure pregnat and nothing else is working try this...go back to her tell her you love her and that your sorry. Fake tears, make this genuine looking. Tell her you want to be with her forever and that you were wrong to leave her. Then tell her you want to wait to have kids with her when the time is right. Tell her you love her and want to wait until you are both out of university before you start a family. This is a risky strategy, but if nothing else works try it. Just remember you have to cry and act this really well. Play the role until she gets the abortion. Goodluck my friend.

This is awful, but this is a lot less awful than a child's future growing up with an apparently psychotic mother and a weak father.
post #95 of 521
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Originally Posted by Sherlock View Post
LOL your parents are paying for your grad school? I'm guessing they bought your car too and probably pay for your apartment. ROFL

Yes, hilarious. . . .

HelloIDistance has a pretty good plan, though as he says, Ãœber risky, try for an abortion first, then when trying to convince her, say that you only wanted her to have an abortion so that your future together could start off right.

Come to think of it, is the OP coming back?
post #96 of 521
Stupid Humans, you'll never learn.
post #97 of 521
BlackShoes, clearly you are out of your fucking mind. let me ask you a question: is it the childs fault that his mother may or may not have manipulated the father? does the child deserve a father? is running away from your own flesh and blood child -- who NEEDS you in his/her life -- being a coward? i think so.
post #98 of 521
The answer Chingmy Yau on youtube: english subtitles included... this video is like...sooo applicable to Mr OP
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post #99 of 521
Thread Starter 
thank you all for your input, i will update as soon as there i get more info. I just had a 2 hour conversation with 1 on the phone. she seems to be warming up to the abortion idea. she said it's 50/50 at the moment and she just needs a week to think it over. she's also really scared and doesn't know what to do yet. she was very rational and we calculated that the fetus/blastocyst is only a bit over a week old - gives me 19 more weeks to work with. she is very against the abortion pill because she is scared of the cramps and 3 weeks of bleeding, so she is considering the "surgical" method if she decides to abort.
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Originally Posted by rjakapeanut View Post
he shouldn't have busted inside of her. we all know women fuck up with the pill sometimes or it doesn't work all the time, and we all know women change their minds like they change their heels. don't bust inside of her = no baby. plain and simple. he did the crime, he'll do the time. 18-life. enjoy it.
I understand I fucked up. I was with another girl for 2 years before who was on birth control and i never used a condom and nothing like this happened. i'm not making any excuses. I should have been more careful and will be careful until i think i am ready to care for a child. I am only 22 years old right now. I don't think i have the capability to raise a child financially, or emotionally.
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Originally Posted by MetroStyles View Post
OP, do you have a contingency plan (no plan B joaks please) in case its yours and she has it? Do you have dual citizenship with China? Does the US enforce Canadian child support?
I only have a Canadian citizenship, but running from this would be difficult. I will only consider this option after gradschool is done in 2 years. i hope it doesn't come to this.
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Originally Posted by MetroStyles View Post
Lol, nope he isn't fucked. Good chance she isn't actually pregnant. Small chance if she is it isn't his. Major chance she gets an abortion and is attention-bluffing.
I really hope this is the case. We are going to go to a clinic on wednesday together to get a blood test, because the pregnancy hormone is concentrated in the blood. As of now, with 2 positive tests, i'm just assuming she is really prego. i need to prep a pro abortion presentation...
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Originally Posted by BlackShoes View Post
I would push heavily for an abortion at this stage, if you allow it to drag out and go for adoption, a big bond will already have formed, and she will be loathe to send it away, even if she agrees now, we have seen that she can be duplicitous. If pushing for abortion does not work, then your option is adoption, but right now, go for the abortion. You had a good idea with the cost/benefit, but make sure to emphasise that she will get nothing from you. Women are programmed to try and enlist the help of a partner in raising their children, by telling her (again, in an uncompromising way) that you will under no circumstances help her, it becomes a far less attractive option for her. Also, mentioning the drinking and smoking seems like a good idea, to take some of the shine off her potential motherhood aspirations. Good luck buddy
I have made it abundantly clear that i will not be with her no matter what. i told her that if she were to have the child, i will not be there for either her or the child emotionally. financially maybe, but that's another matter because i'll be in school for another couple of years.
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Originally Posted by bigbris1 View Post
OP, I haven't read the entire thread but just read thru your entire first post. It sounds like 1 may be trying to control you. I say move on and forget about 1. If she indeed does eventually have a kid and the paternity tests show that it's yours, you know what you have to do. Until then, assume she's playing you. If you want to know how I know, just ask me.
did this happen to you? although I think 1 is a nice girl, she IS really possessive and has trust issues (maybe from her father leaving the fam at a young age). I hope she's not playing. She sounds very sincerely scared on the phone...
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Originally Posted by Sherlock View Post
LOL your parents are paying for your grad school? I'm guessing they bought your car too and probably pay for your apartment. ROFL
Notice i said they're paying for a "down payment" for grad school. I got a loan from the bank, but the program doesn't start until May nest year so i have no access to that money. I take the bus to school, work part time in the school gym, and I live at home. good old student life.
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Originally Posted by BlackShoes View Post
Come to think of it, is the OP coming back?
I'm back. Thank you all for helping me look through all my options.
post #100 of 521
op, drop it like it's hot
post #101 of 521
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by jet View Post
op, drop it like it's hot

i wish it were that easy.
this could potentially ruin everything i've ever worked for...

i hope she comes around. there are absolutely no benefits from having a child at my age. I'm 22, she's 21. It's not fair for her, myself, or the child.
I have no means to support a kid. They're expensive, and I have a part time job at school...
post #102 of 521
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Originally Posted by Neo_Version 7 View Post
Why is it that the guys on creampiesurprise never seem to have issues such as this?

I believe they have had a vasectomy.
post #103 of 521
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Originally Posted by deranged View Post
i wish it were that easy.
this could potentially ruin everything i've ever worked for...

i hope she comes around. there are absolutely no benefits from having a child at my age. I'm 22, she's 21. It's not fair for her, myself, or the child.
I have no means to support a kid. They're expensive, and I have a part time job at school...

listen to blackshoes, fucafetus
post #104 of 521
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Originally Posted by jet View Post
listen to blackshoes, fucafetus

I agree, that guy seems to know what he's talking about.
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