Thanks for all the support guys. to update the story. she took another test today and it came back positive again. she took a picture of it on her phone and sent me the picture. she is definitely pregnant. There is no doubt about it. Now my option is to choose the strategy i will use to try to convince her to get rid of it. She's a little asian girl, 5'3, 86lbs. I think even if she decides to go on, chances of her having a miscarriage is very high. If all else fails, that might be my saving grace. I laid it out for her this morning via a cost benefit analysis. Costs: 1. kills career 2. very expensive - diapers, childcare, formula, school, etc 3. time consuming - no time to study or go out 4. hurts her chances of finding someone else in the future - i made it clear i'm not going to be with her either way. She's going to have a hard time on finding someone who is willing to date a girl with a kid. 5. weight gain - she's really self conscious about weight. 6. giving birth will hurt - pushing out a 10lb baby is not pleasant. 7. i will be here for her only if she gets an abortion - does this make me an asshole? i guess i can live with being an ass. benefits: 1. she has this little thing she can play with which constantly reminds her of a mistake in her life. Any other points I should raise? I've been researching medical abortions which is just 2 pills that makes her have a miscarriage. It sounds pretty good. take a couple of pills and cramp up and bleed for 5-8 hours. Spotting for 2-3 weeks afterwards. No side effects. She said she wants to think it over for a week or so. should i rush her or just give her time? university educated girls should have the brains to figure out that she should get rid of it right??? i'm so fucking stressed. my parents would whip my ass. they already paid the deposit for gradschool...
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9/25/10 at 6:36pm