You're, what, a second year associate at a NYC BigLaw firm? Sounds about right. Enjoy, it's what you signed up for. Face it, those jobs are like being a resident at a hospital.
Your life will come in your second or third jobs (smaller firms, in-house, non-profit, etc.), unless those jobs are also with BigLaw firms. Of course, you won't make more than $200k at those places, but that's the trade-off, no?