Getting a life - Page 3

What's wrong with hard drugs?

sports leagues.

If you're actually a decent drummer, it's a GREAT way to meet people.

Tons of people play guitar. Everyone thinks they can sing. Someone who plays guitar will get a bass and 'fake it till they make it'. But there is always a shortage of drummers.

Hmm...how about go to school and get a degree? You live next to a college for crying out loud. College is not for everyone, but a guy like you can benefit a lot from it. You sound like a guy that can think for himself. It's also a good sign that you didn't get into drugs like your other friends did. Start with a community college and you will be amazed how fast your social network will expand. It doesnt hurt to learn a thing or two either.

I'd start taking classes at the school if you can wing it. You'll meet a lot of people not only through classes, but social functions at the school.

To do something you like in your parents permission

Look on the bright side- at least you're not a bitter 30 year old postdoc with the same problem.

<ghost of Jacob Marley voice> You can be saaaaaaaaaved!!! </ghost of Jacob Marley voice>

I'd agree with the majority about joining clubs, evening classes, sporting or exercise activities.

Basically, find things you want to do, rather than going specifically to meet someone specific.

And I would not recommend online dating until you've done all this. People on dating sites often tend to be looking for people who have done lots of interesting things, and therefore have lots of interesting things to talk about. You may get scared off if you feel you don't have the experiences to meet their expectations.

My number one piece of advice is sports leagues. You don't have to be great but if you're at least adequate it helps. I started playing in softball leagues right out of high school. I had it easy though as my dad played (still plays) a lot and got me on one of his league night teams. Now this was all guys in their late forties/early fifties but if you don't have any contacts to join a sports team, you can sign up and be placed on one. It'll usually be lower level which is fine as that's where most of the younger guys play anyways. I didn't start playing to meet new friends but it just worked that way. If you're good then you'll get more opportunities as well. I got asked to play for another league night team and for a tournament team right away. Over the last few years I've made a lot of friends through these teams and others and many of my closest friends (and friends I met through them) are people I still play softball with. It's easy to make friends there as you see them every week or two, week in week out, and share a common interest. As for something that may work strictly for you. Join a fishing forum (or a club)as you like to fish and make sure it's a local one. I joined a local fishing forum a few years back as I had just gotten into it and didn't have any friends that shared this interest. It started out with wanting to learn more about the sport and equipment as well as getting up to the minute info on hot spots and how the fishing was going. It didn't take long before I was frequently fishing with a group of guys from the forum.

in the end most of them are. . .