Originally Posted by ScottMan
Glad the date went well.
I think the issue is that you seem to be avoiding a "buzz" like the plague, when most of us probably wouldn't even get a buzz with a drink or two over the course of a date. So either you're a lightweight (which is totally fine and a blessing) or you don't stop drinking until you get that buzz, which would be you not being able to stop versus you just hating alcohol. Some people have an alcohol intolerance that causes headaches and extreme flushing...I get that. But really, if you get a buzz from a beer an hour, something is off. There would be no reason for all of this awkwardness and "what do I do if she does this or that?" stuff if you drank slowly because you would never get that buzz you hate. So do you just get a buzz that fast, or is something else going on?
I'm a lightweight now obviously, but when I drank regularly I wasn't. I'd get mild headaches and/or tired from time to time. The funny thing is that I miss the taste more than the buzz-I wish someone made a good NA Malbec. It's a good social lubricant, but I'm a pretty good conversationalist anyway, so it wasn't ever that necessary. Like I said in the beginning, I realized after quitting that it took more from my life than it was giving back. Costs: money, calorie intake, hangovers, lapses in judgment on nights I overdid it (rare, and if you tell me you've never made any I call BS) and overall health costs. Benefits: a slight change in personality that I didn't particularly like. Not a tough decision.
It's interesting that I'm defending my choice not to participate in something I dislike because it's a social norm. If we were talking about smoking, which was a social norm in the same way until relatively recently, it'd be a totally different story.