Great scene at the end of the movie 'Closer' where the Jude Law character's persistence in asking gets him dumped by Natalie Portman. My own experience is that it's better not to ask - denial is way underrated. The act of asking itself can be the problem, not the past lovers. I guess because it only matters if it matters to you. Kudos to you dude - sounds like you worked thru it. Interested if any words of wisdom here helped?
I dunno man, it was lulzy before, now its like you know what, breakups suck, so I'm not going to be all hurr durr about it. Plus AFAIK, this didnt wind up being an issue in the breakup, so hey, maybe he was right.