Here is what I think. 1. There were some very good answers, including the poster who highlighted her age and your comment about "really loving her"...and said "stop it". 2. The poster who said it's about insecurity was right. Why would you give a sh*t if she actually loved you, and you loved her? ---------------------------------------------------- Here is my opinion, and I do believe that I know what I'm talking about...(otherwise I wouldn't share)...relationships are very serious...and although advice is helpful...in the end, you make the decisions. To anybody out there, I am going to be frank...please do not be offended..I am completely a proponent of women's rights...(women who respect themselves, and elevate their gender that is)... For starters
. What in god's name do you mean you really love her. She is 20, you are probably young also, you will change, so will she...what does that say to me...To be honest...while possible, you probably don't know what love is, if you call this love...here is how I know...real love is unconditional
..If she loved you, or you really loved her...why the hell do you care. who she slept with it sounds like some "red flags are manifesting" themselves in the information you may believe to be truthful about your girlfriend...listen to your gut!!!!
If you think she has had questionable behavior in the past..here is the deal...(assuming you mean her sleeping around, hanging out with losers, drugs, binge drinking etc)...she probably has no respect for herself. If she is 20 and has been exhibiting questionable behavior...she probably dosen't love herself....how can she love you, if she dosen't even love herself???
Why do you even know about her history...has she done enough questionable shit for it to get back to you...if that is the case...drop her....
If she hint's at past escapades..she is probably trying to push your buttons and/or psychologically manipulate you....drop her.... You sound very compassionate, kind, and thoughtful ....find someone better. Find a woman who respects herself. You should not have to "get over" things which she did in the past...that is totally insane, irrational, and incorrect thinking.
good luck. If you are in college, have fun, date tons of women..date a different one every day. (some of the coolest hang out in art classes).....if your not...you are still in the prime of your life....rock on...!!!