How to get over things your gf has done in the past.

I don't care how many people my exes have done.

And yes, you screwed yourself by asking.

If you really love her it shouldn't bother you this much. You're just insecure with yourself. What's driving you nuts is the fact that she can easily fuck around you.

Yes. Come on, 12 is not a big number. 50 or 100 would probably be a problem, anything else not so much.

Did you realise there is the rule of three? When a man tells his number he usually inflates it by a factor 3. Women tend to decrease the number by a factor 3. This tells me you are actually #34.








But even if that is true, get over yourself.






PS
Myself, I have no self esteem issues, since I've slept with 3 women!

You hadn't considered that it could be your own insecurity bothering you? lolwut

Stop it.

Dump the 'ho. There are plenty of 20 year old virgins out there. Time to break a few cherries - that will help you forget that she's been with at least 11 guys before you, but probably more like 77. (With girls it's a factor of 7.) If you really need incentive to dump the 'ho already, ask her if she's ever done anal. She'll most likely admit to it, but try to ameliorate her response by saying something like "I didn't really want to try it but my ex kept asking so I just gave in. I didn't like it though - it kinda hurt".

After that conversation, you'll have no trouble dumping her and finding someone purer who can at least count her sexual parters on one hand.

You didn't ruin the relationship, you just fucked up your own calm. If you're insecure in this field (and rarely a young guy isn't) NEVER ask her anything about her past. It's better to be uninformed than to lose sleep because of that. I paid a lot to learn this lesson. Now it will stay on your mind for a long time, bet on it. But after some time, you'll forget about that. Her past is her past, don't dig into it. It's actually better that she has a lot of experience, she won't have to cheat on you just to know what it's like with other guys. But please, never ever ask her for details. (You'll want to, although it's masochistic and completely stupid.) Have a double whiskey, man up and don't repeat this mistake again. Good luck.

What do you want to hear? It's meaningless, you shouldn't ask and/or care. We can't help with how you feel about it, that's your choice.

Even if it does is it a more meaningful/telling way to determine her character than your day-to-day interaction with her?

Is she a bitch just because she has slept with many men?! Either you love her or not. If yes, stop thinking about it because if anything will ruin the relationship, it will not be her past, but your immature behavior and fear.