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post #16 of 26
8/19/10 at 5:55pm
Friends and unfortunately, even spouses may come and go. The only thing you really have in life are your family because you're stuck with them!
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post #17 of 26
8/19/10 at 6:04pm
Maybe it has nothing to do with the city thing. Maybe you're just not that intersesting to hang out with. In other words, maybe it's you.
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post #18 of 26
8/19/10 at 6:29pm
Realistically if they wanted to chill they wouldn't let stupid shit like gas and a few red lights stop them.
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post #19 of 26
8/19/10 at 8:25pm
I don't think you've been there. My purgatory in the Chicago burbs for work looked something like this:

Minimum hour of stop-n-go traffic inbound
Either finding parking or paying ~20-40 for parking
Be cheery for your pals after a day of work and stop-n-go traffic
Drinks - having to lay off drinks if you need to drive back or hotel/crashing on a couch/guest bedroom
Retrieving your overnight bag from your car if you packed one just in case

Dealing with pals or hookup in the morning,
maybe breakfast or brunch
Another day of finding parking or another $20-40 if you decide to spend the day doing fun stuff downtown

An hour outbound to to get home and take care of your own shit.

It's a bigger production than you think and I'm sure I left some things out.
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post #20 of 26
8/19/10 at 8:42pm
I have a really good friend from college that moved to the DC area. Hung out a bit since he moved to the area but he got wifed up (live in under -21 girlfriend) and he's MIA. My heart bleeds.
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post #21 of 26
8/19/10 at 8:53pm
Los Angeles expats in San Francisco are often the worst. So many friends moved up there, became horrible, and then acted like they "survived" the experience of their home city. They talk endless shit when they return.
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post #22 of 26
8/19/10 at 10:13pm
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Originally Posted by odoreater View Post
Maybe it has nothing to do with the city thing. Maybe you're just not that intersesting to hang out with. In other words, maybe it's you.

This is simply impossible. Look. Beers.



Actually, I think this subject could make a decent Paul Rudd movie that would be called "Over the Bridge" about a group of 20-something pals living it up in the city, when one by one they all get picked off by out of town job offers, girlfriends with nesting instincts, etc. and the leader of the group of friends sets up a bunch of wacky half-baked ideas to get his friends to not want to move out to the suburbs. This will make millions.
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post #23 of 26
8/20/10 at 1:04pm
paul rudd rocks lol!
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post #24 of 26
8/20/10 at 1:11pm
^^I believe they touched base on this a little bit in the "I Love You Man" film (Paul Rudd).
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post #25 of 26
8/20/10 at 1:27pm
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Originally Posted by Douglas View Post
It happens. It's life. Imagine what happens when ppl start having kids! BTW, I have found it cuts both ways. Not any one party is at fault, well, at least, not some of the time. I have friends who are single and unattached whom I rarely see anymore, and it is not for a lack of my trying. It's just that, confronted with the option of having dinner (downtown) with me, the wife, and kid vs. heading to a happy hour where there is the potential to meet single women, the single women win.
Nah, that is your fault. I'm friends with my friends, not their spouse and kid. I can be friendly with their spouse, but I've never though, "gee, I wonder what so-and-so's wife is up to? I should try to meet up with her (no cuckoldo)." They're little more than a sidekick than anything. It's the same concept when a friend gets a girlfriend and then always shows up everywhere with her; you just shouldn't do that. A few times, okay, but if that becomes the MO for all future hang out sessions, it's not cool. Priorities change in life, so I'm not necessarily blaming you for placing your family above your friends. I just don't believe you should try to shift the blame onto them.
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post #26 of 26
8/20/10 at 10:00pm
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This is an annoying part of growing up. Certain friends moving out to the 'burbs and then never hanging out because of strange issues like gas prices and traffic. How do you guys deal with it? Just write them off with a hearty "nice to know you now enjoy your new hell?"
Visit them at holiday time ... Thanksgiving ... Christmas. Their places in the burbs is probably bigger and better appointed that the place they had in they city ... so they'll probably be able to put you up with little effort. But don't assume without asking.
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