How to deal problems with an ex-girlfriend when you both want to remain friends. - Page 2

^Exactly what I was thinking...

actually my first response was 'ahh high schoolers, so cute, and on reread, saw that 'sharing classes' included the word 'college' and was like...:wow, really?"

I would stop doing stuff with her alone (I'm assuming you are given the occasional messing around). Invite your other friends whenever you're going to meet up or do something together.

at which point everyone will think they are still together/back together....and what about when one of those friends brings along The Perfect Woman For Him who won't go near him cos he either 1/"has a girlfriend" (or so she is led to believe by the proximity of My New Friend) or 2/"is hung up on his ex who is Always Always There". Same applies in reverse for her by the way....

Maybe, maybe not. It will prevent accidental hookups though.

If you just started with the new girl 3 weeks ago.....mess with both! if you are not that sort of high schooler who will deal with 2 chicks at once, cut the first one off...

Finally. Answers so far have been missing the first part of the above. Get away with it for as long as you can.

And ter, you are immoral.

from my experience its best to cut all ties with the Ex's.

i have tried to remain friends but it just ruins current relationships

I just had this experience happen to me this past spring. Ex and I were growing apart, we've become completely different people over our realtionship it wasn't the first time I thought about ending it. Being in school we have some mutual acquaintances as we came to find out that many of our friends share programs. We broke up, and a couple of weeks later she was texting asking if we could still hook up NSA, well it doesn't work that way. So randomly for the next couple of months I would get a text from her asking how I was doing, or she would enlighten me on the stupidest thing that she stumbled across while studying, this is something we got into the habit of doing while dating as it usually amused both of us. After I would not reply to such attempts at trying to restart a relationship she would send a bunch of texts summed up with "I'm so unhappy we're not together anymore, can we please give it another go?" (+More issues than I hadn't realized during the relationship). Then about 3 months after the break up, she finds me on campus, sits down at the desk I'm working at, stares me dead in the eye and says " I know that I fucked up and was a horrible girlfriend, but you weren't prince charming either. So let's give this a second go round, okay" I replied with a flat, no, and told her to leave me to my assignment as I came into the library to avoid distractions. That weekend I got a text from a friend of mine asking permission if he could have a crack at her... Go right ahead. (He and I are very similar personality wise, and she knew him before) I get a text the next morning telling me that my ex flat out propositioned my friend (prompting the text). Then once it was over she began to ball her eyes out telling my friend that she missed me so much and would do anything to get me back. To sum up the story I don't say friends with ex's, I find it makes it awkard, especially if they are not over you (99% of the time there is more to the situation then meets the eye) or vice versa. Like Matt said it can and will screw up the potential for future partners.