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post #16 of 30
8/1/10 at 11:22am
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Originally Posted by texas_jack View Post
He's probably an alcoholic. I would try to get him help for the drinking first.
This was my thought. If you ask someone not to get ridiculous at your friend's party, and they cannot ever help themselves from it, well that might be a sign that he has a drinking problem.
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post #17 of 30
8/1/10 at 11:46am
keep him, he's the only one of your friends so far that isn't fickle.

Might be time to get him to stop drinking.
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post #18 of 30
8/1/10 at 12:17pm
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Originally Posted by SkinnyGoomba View Post
Might be time to get him to stop drinking.

Easier said than done. I've asked him about stopping and he said "that's the last thing [he's] prepared to do."
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post #19 of 30
8/1/10 at 12:26pm
As you say he has a pretty bad drinking problem.

If you've made a concerted effort to address his drinking problem and the consequences, it sounds like he's ignoring what you say as he's addicted to drinking so refuses to accept or believe the negative reality, so he can keep on drinking.

I'm afraid people need to learn the hard way sometimes, to give them a wake up call. If you've done your best to try and persuade him he has an alcohol problem, and he still ignores you - you should ditch your friend in social situations IMO.

When enough people ditch him, and enough bad things happen, he'll start listening to what everyone is telling him. Then he'll stop the drinking and return to being the good guy you know him as.

It's a tough call as things can get really ugly before they get better.


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I have a friend who, once or twice a year, gets so wasted that he basically becomes an animal. I mean, he completely loses his ability to reason. When he does, he often makes a complete ass out of himself and me as a result. Once, he tried to grab my friend's boss's boobs and spilled wine on her. Another time, he accosted another woman until she left the party we were at. Both times, the people who hosted stopped hanging out with me since I brought my friend in question.

When he is sober, he is a great friend -- he has done some very nice things for me, but are these grievances enough for me to think about ditching him for good? I mean, I dont want to bring him around any new people I met because there is always the chance that he will get blackout drunk and assault someone. I have tried to address his drinking problem with him, but he doesnt seem to get it because he never remembers the stupid shit he does.

Should I ditch him? Yes or no, please.
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post #20 of 30
8/1/10 at 12:30pm
I would definitely stop hanging out with someone if they behaved in such a manner and refused my attempts to correct their behavior.
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post #21 of 30
8/1/10 at 1:53pm
Y'all are good friends.
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post #22 of 30
8/1/10 at 9:02pm
Dont take him out when you at an important meet up. just make it up to him the next night.
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post #23 of 30
8/1/10 at 9:15pm
what if one day you have a wife and/or daughter,you want this guy around them at a family function? (unless you are a really good liar and not invite him over by making up good excuse(s) for the rest of your life)
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post #24 of 30
8/1/10 at 9:34pm
No excuse for behavior like this from an adult. Sounds like he has a problem that needs to be dealt with... seems to me that things will only get worse otherwise.
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post #25 of 30
8/2/10 at 11:42am
intervention is needed
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post #26 of 30
8/2/10 at 11:44am
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Originally Posted by msza View Post
I have a friend who, once or twice a year, gets so wasted that he basically becomes an animal. I mean, he completely loses his ability to reason. When he does, he often makes a complete ass out of himself and me as a result. Once, he tried to grab my friend's boss's boobs and spilled wine on her. Another time, he accosted another woman until she left the party we were at. Both times, the people who hosted stopped hanging out with me since I brought my friend in question.

When he is sober, he is a great friend -- he has done some very nice things for me, but are these grievances enough for me to think about ditching him for good? I mean, I dont want to bring him around any new people I met because there is always the chance that he will get blackout drunk and assault someone. I have tried to address his drinking problem with him, but he doesnt seem to get it because he never remembers the stupid shit he does.

Should I ditch him? Yes or no, please.

I have a friend like this. He is a good guy but do not take him to work-related events.
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post #27 of 30
8/2/10 at 1:20pm
He shouldn't be someone you bring to a party. It is your fault your old friends didn't approve of him.
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post #28 of 30
8/2/10 at 1:42pm
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I have a friend like this. He is a good guy but do not take him to work-related events.

I think I remember a story...
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post #29 of 30
8/13/10 at 2:43pm
i have to say keep being a friend but dont go out to events with new people.
sounds like a fun chap
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post #30 of 30
8/13/10 at 3:07pm
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Originally Posted by msza View Post
I have a friend who, once or twice a year, gets so wasted that he basically becomes an animal. I mean, he completely loses his ability to reason. When he does, he often makes a complete ass out of himself and me as a result. Once, he tried to grab my friend's boss's boobs and spilled wine on her. Another time, he accosted another woman until she left the party we were at. Both times, the people who hosted stopped hanging out with me since I brought my friend in question.

When he is sober, he is a great friend -- he has done some very nice things for me, but are these grievances enough for me to think about ditching him for good? I mean, I dont want to bring him around any new people I met because there is always the chance that he will get blackout drunk and assault someone. I have tried to address his drinking problem with him, but he doesnt seem to get it because he never remembers the stupid shit he does.

Should I ditch him? Yes or no, please.

dude does everyone have to consult an internet forum on basic social decisions???

he is a great friend to you but does stupid things at parties and social situations with drinking.

obviously the answer is:

dont ditch him.
dont bring him to these events.


how does anyone get through life if they cant even answer these things on their own???

you cant life counsel your own life?



"i have a coworker who is so great to work with but when we have lunch he spits on my face everytime....WTF should i do???? should i quit my job????"

lol
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