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post #16 of 29
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Originally Posted by GQgeek
Should you go ahead with it, I can guarantee you that you won't make the same mistake twice.
I made the same mistake twice, the last time with my current girlfriend. (Well, the minute she handed in her resignation, I pounced.) I can't recommend it - it's complicated, and the potential for shit hitting fans is huge, in particular if the thing doesn't work out.
post #17 of 29
Do it. I don't know about the American policies, but I have yet to hear of someone who was fired in Scandinavia because (s)he had an affair with a coworker. Of course things might get awkward if things don't work out but how's that different from what could happen in school or any other organization?
post #18 of 29
Do NOT do it. The shop is too small. Work will become very uncomfortable. Besides, aren't you, in effect at least, her boss? Bad dynamic.

Who cares about getting fired, what about day-to-day stuff if you guys break-up?


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post #19 of 29
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Originally Posted by WN2
Do it. I don't know about the American policies, but I have yet to hear of someone who was fired in Scandinavia because (s)he had an affair with a coworker. Of course things might get awkward if things don't work out but how's that different from what could happen in school or any other organization?

Because in a work situation, it's much easier for her to claim (or maybe really perceive) that you exerted undue influence on her because you were an important rising executive and she was a poor widdle lowly receptionist who felt she had to surrender to your charms in order to save her job and be able to afford to take care of her elderly parents.

It's generally a bad idea to casually date someone from work, but if you must, at least make it a peer.

post #20 of 29
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Originally Posted by Quirk
Because in a work situation, it's much easier for her to claim (or maybe really perceive) that you exerted undue influence on her because you were an important rising executive and she was a poor widdle lowly receptionist who felt she had to surrender to your charms in order to save her job and be able to afford to take care of her elderly parents.

It's generally a bad idea to casually date someone from work, but if you must, at least make it a peer.

OK, might be so in the States, I've read some stories. I honestly can't see this happening over here. Of course she could claim whatever she wants, but you don't have to be afraid of any legal issues. Unless you do harass her, that is.
post #21 of 29
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Originally Posted by WN2
OK, might be so in the States, I've read some stories. I honestly can't see this happening over here. Of course she could claim whatever she wants, but you don't have to be afraid of any legal issues. Unless you do harass her, that is.

Still, it's not only a matter of *legal issues* ... The potential damage to your reputation from a badly-ended relationship (no matter if it's casual sex or a real relationship) is not neglectable, certainly in a small company. People will always end up considering that you made a major faux pas by dating someone from the company
post #22 of 29
You may want to get hold of the George Stevens film, titled A PLACE in the SUN. It stars Montgomery Clift, Elizabeth Taylor (she was SEVENTEEN, in this role,) and Shelley Winters. Watch it.
post #23 of 29
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Originally Posted by Jodum5
Wait til the office christmas party to make your move and let it end there but keep flirting so that when both of you are toasted at the party it'll be easier to do your business with little consequence. Or even better, take her out with some of the other bankers for some innocent high roller fun then do your business and forget about it. In other words, keep it strictly as a one night affair and dont give her any illusions about anything developing afterwards

This is the worst advice yet.
post #24 of 29
Geez!!!

I can't believe all of the worrying going on in this thread. Unless you are a complete jerk and begin harrassing her, an office romance is not going to get you fired. It would be different if she reported directly to you, but I'm guessing that she doesn't.

I'm thinking that the most likely negative consequence is if the romance ends, it might be a bit uncomfortable to have to see each other every day.

If you are attracted to her, and she seems like a nice person, then by all means ask her out on a date.

If I was in your position, there is no way I would be deterred by the fact that she was the receptionist.
post #25 of 29
I work in a restaurant and I am kind of working on someone right now. She is a sort of Assistant Manager but is my age and is alone in a new country. In this restaurant, with about 60 employees, it will more than likely get out when we start sleeping together. But, the major thing in your situation, is this is your career. This is my temporary job during college. Completely different ball games and not worth the potential for disaster, especially if you lose your job because of it and then have to tell your next employer why you lost your job.
post #26 of 29
What sort of fraternities do they have in Sweden?
post #27 of 29
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Originally Posted by Sean
I work in a restaurant and I am kind of working on someone right now. She is a sort of Assistant Manager but is my age and is alone in a new country. In this restaurant, with about 60 employees, it will more than likely get out when we start sleeping together. But, the major thing in your situation, is this is your career. This is my temporary job during college. Completely different ball games and not worth the potential for disaster, especially if you lose your job because of it and then have to tell your next employer why you lost your job.

The restaurant industry is just one big coke-induced orgy anyway.
post #28 of 29
I think it's time to take a cue from James Bond here (from the movies anyways), he never did more than flirt with Mrs. Moneypenny.

Flirting with the receptionist is something you do because you're a ladies man and you've got mojo! Take that with you outside the workplace and holla! Having sex with her would just be a a sad sign of desperation...
post #29 of 29
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Originally Posted by manifest v
I think it's time to take a cue from James Bond here (from the movies anyways), he never did more than flirt with Mrs. Moneypenny.

Flirting with the receptionist is something you do because you're a ladies man and you've got mojo! Take that with you outside the workplace and holla! Having sex with her would just be a a sad sign of desperation...

Wait a minute, having sex with gorgeous women is a sad sign of desperation? <confused>
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