[Need Advice!] girl problems.... - Page 3

Good lord, man, run away. She does not want a relationship. If she did you'd be set.

You are quite literally in the same situation that I was describing above--it will not work. No matter how perfect you think things could be with her (things in common, physical attraction, etc.) if she isn't into it--and she's clearly not as evidenced by her behavior so far and by what your friends have said--that's that.

bob

i'd advise against waiting it out, just leave it as it is- going further with a girl like that in all probability will give you more trouble than what its worth.

The problem with kids today (I'm 21 ) is that they view relationships as a transaction, looking to get as much as they can in exchange for, often, the least input. That's what this girl seems to be doing. On the one hand, she deserves nothing better to be treated the same way.

On the other, it's a trap that you can fall into which will get in the way of a more serious relationship.

I've often debated with myself the merits of sleeping around while looking for the right one. I think it's a reasonable path to take (as long as you're not misleading girls into thinking it's any more) as it keeps you sane, and with a healthy perception of your own attractiveness, which will help you net the right girl in the long run. On the other hand, you can often get bogged down in it and end up missing real opportunities. Or worse, getting a reputation as the wrong kind of guy.

It was very prescient of whichever movie star (Charlie Sheen I think) - himself easily capable of picking and choosing his women - to note that he paid prostitutes not to have sex with him, but to leave afterwards.

I'm not advocating ladies of the night, just for the record. But just making the point that there's really no sex to be had gratis, without at least some emotional and social commitment.

Best of luck,

Eden

No. You're walking down the path of destruction, failure, and endless nights whackin off to a memory. Hope your porno collection is good.

I dont know why you just dont hang out with her at some point, get likkered up a bit, and make a move on her. If she is totally grossed out by that you can blame the cheap booze. If she is receptive, then you're good to go. I dont get this whole "give her an ultimatum" thing...were you raised to pee sitting down, because your actions as you indicate are very pussy, and girls dont like pussies unless they're bi..!!

but keep us posted on what happens, I like stuff like this, helps replace the lack of quality teen drama like 90210 or Dawson's Creek in my life

Snap!

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BTW, if not Jason's plan, then give her the let's just be friends speech (she will be very confused) and then date her friends. Not in a passive aggressive attempt to get her, she just undoubtedly has hot friends.

I would agree with you on this if you are referring to American girls. But there is more to be learned. Involve and abuse yourself.

I agree with Getsmart. I think in order to really know if she wants you, you have to make a move. She herself probably doesn't know the answer because it is such an emotional reaction. But first you should try to stack the odds for yourself - if EtOH won't do it, you may have to try good old fashioned romance.

Really?!?!?

Do NOT Do This. I REPEAT DO NOT DO THIS. She is an AW. You will NEVER get what you want like this, if ever. Simply fade away from her life. CUT OFF the Drama--that is her blood stream.

In upcoming days--answer less and less of her calls, never even remotly show that you are ignoring her on purpose. Just seem busy (even though you are not) and slowly fade away from her life. Trust me, if you do this right- it will itch her for years to come as to why you never replied to her.

Again, NO Drama or emotional speeches. That is Exactly what she wants... playing you like a puppet (perhaps for fun). case in point


In case you still don't get it--(check you PM also)

You are done with her. This is going nowhere close to a relationship.

take care
later...

Nah...Argentinean girls are about the same. Actually, if anything, American girls are easier.

Jon.

I think I know who you are. Did you grow up in Visalia?