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post #136 of 142
7/20/10 at 6:31am
Women are different, like.
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post #137 of 142
7/20/10 at 2:32pm
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I still think we should have a sex/relationship



hmmm...
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post #138 of 142
7/20/10 at 2:46pm
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Matt was the first... sorry, guy
Whatever Matt told you about me, don't believe it!
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awww....it's Sweet Tuesday in St Petersburg
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post #139 of 142
7/20/10 at 2:52pm
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Whatever Matt told you about me, don't believe it!


hope that doesn't deal with all the other things Matt told me
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7/21/10 at 12:38am
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You seem to be easily pissed off. None of the persons you respond to has claimed that all men should want to bang every single attractive female. Some people have said this is what they personnally are like. And some people have claimed to recognize this kind of behaviour in spb_lady's description. None of this is a generalization of the type that irks you.
Easily pissed off? Hardly. It's not as if you're a newb, Etienne, you've seen me around here. Why would you say something so ridiculous? Don't get hung up on "every single attractive female" as if that every in the literal sense is actually realistic, when it is a little crazy on its face. Also, I wasn't merely speaking about this thread, I was talking about the cultural mandate that one's masculinity is suspect if a man does not want to have sex with an attractive woman with whom he has some preexisting non-familial relationship. Responding to spb_lady, Matt did make that generalization, saying that her friend "either" had the hots for her or was gay. That's just two options, Etienne, and exactly what I am talking about. Saying that he "claimed to recognize this kind of behavior" is just spin on your part. Also, http://www.styleforum.net/showpost.p...5&postcount=27 Ok, so maybe he was joking, but that would especially then be emblematic of that sort of low-level cultural assumption I am talking about. ~ H
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post #141 of 142
7/21/10 at 1:20am
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Responding to spb_lady, Matt did make that generalization, saying that her friend "either" had the hots for her or was gay. That's just two options, Etienne, and exactly what I am talking about. Saying that he "claimed to recognize this kind of behavior" is just spin on your part.

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I'm curious as to what other circumstances lend themselves to a heterosexually inclined male acting as her friend does in situations other than being "in love." I share with your distaste for people labeled gay when they aren't obsessed with sex, but the man's behavior as described by la ruski do not appear to be that of simply a friend, especially given the emotionally ambiguous and tenuous nature of opposite sex relationships.
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post #142 of 142
7/21/10 at 5:30am
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Easily pissed off? Hardly. It's not as if you're a newb, Etienne, you've seen me around here. Why would you say something so ridiculous?
It is because I know you that I was surprised by that unusual show of quick temper.
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Also, I wasn't merely speaking about this thread, I was talking about the cultural mandate that one's masculinity is suspect if a man does not want to have sex with an attractive woman with whom he has some preexisting non-familial relationship.
Although I agree with you that this cultural mandate, which I would rather call a stereotype, exists and is unfortunate, I don't think it has been present in this particular thread. You were responding to specific posters here, and their posts don't seem a sufficient basis to your anger to me. Matt's joke is probably a product of that stereotype, but a joke it remains nonetheless.
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Responding to spb_lady, Matt did make that generalization, saying that her friend "either" had the hots for her or was gay. That's just two options, Etienne, and exactly what I am talking about. Saying that he "claimed to recognize this kind of behavior" is just spin on your part.
I can just repeat my previous point here. It is not a generalization, but a judgement on a specific case, where a lot of details were given.
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